What an evening, oka, so my car breaks down, my son is moving to another town, I owe money to my bank and yet I have not called my ex!!! I did wake up last night really missing him, but i think I miss the security in that he would take care of all those issues for me. Now, I have to take care of myself. That is part of being int he Action Stage, continually make decisions toward my Maintenance Stage. I think I am getting it, it makes total sense to me, I just have to keep at it.