Green Smiley Monday

It is sort of a green smiley!  I spent the weekend at my son's house.  I always enjoy visiting Andrew and his wonderful wife Tiina!
But the downside is that I spent a large part of Saturday and yesterday at a hospice.  My best friend's sister is dying of Cancer (Jeanne lives in Edmonton, where my son is).  Marie (my friend) has been sitting with her for 3 weeks.  We think Jeanne is waiting for a very good friend to visit before she leaves. 
I remember how difficult it was watching my mother-in-law struggle for air - we sat with her around the clock.  Joe and I and sat with her for most of the day and part of the evening.  Lisa stayed with her on the night shift.  Joe's sister and brother-in-law came for a couple of hours during the day to give us a rest.  It just occurred to me that Susan, Lisa, Mum and Robert are together now - along with so many other family members.  Jeanne is Marie's favorite - out of 11 siblings!  One other sister died about 6 months ago so we are both ready for 2012 to be done!
I have been working a lot but I think I will be ready in 2 weeks - I have to be; that is when I need to present!
The green smiley is for Wednesday and Thursday - we are going to Banff to celebrate (or rather relax) for my birthday.
Another green smiley is that we booked a week in Tofino - a beautiful area on Vancouver Island next on the ocean, for Christmas.  It occurred to me that I was dreading Christmas.  I love watching the waves crashing on the beach - we have a beach side cabin booked.
And the most exciting part is my dream vacation - on Jan 20 we leave for South America - we are booked to go to Machu Picchu and the Galapagos!!!  We are not quite sure how we will pay for it all.  One thing is certain - the condo renos will have to wait. 
I have started reading 'Unattended Sorrow" by Stephen Levine.  I love the image of E.L. Doctorow - comparing grief to driving at night.  "though you can see only a few feet ahead of you, you can make the whole journey that way".  I dare not to try to see further.  I am trying very hard to live in the moment - except of course, for planning trips!
I wish you a wonderful 1st week of September.
Lisa:  I thought of you so much this weekend.  I really don't know how I have made it to now.  I really have been driving in the dark.  I miss you always and love you forever.  Mummy

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Abotsd
Abotsd

I understand driving in the dark...and I find it scary. Better to make plans for future pleasures, always having something to look forward to. I\'m sad today, and only hope you will keep in touch so I can travel with you through your words. I am so sorry for your friend, as we age, the dead pile on. Abby
1Patriciann
1Patriciann

Gentle ((hugs)) and good thoughts shared.

You are a very good planner to be sure.
:-) Patricia
NoraMc
NoraMc

You are a traveler,,,,you have so many trips....and they al sound great!
biowoman
biowoman

That is a perfect analogy...driving in the dark...hmmm...thank you...
KandL
KandL

Marlene, its the truth...it is just like driving in the dark. Just get safely through the next few feet of road. Glad to hear you had some time with Andrew and his wife..I know you and your son need to be in each other\'s company.
It is hard to see a person suffer at the end of their life. You are a good friend to go and be with Marie at this time. I am sure the love and support helped her at this difficult time. May Jeanne transition gently...
Enjoy your travels..your trip to S. America sounds very exciting. Love to you and Lisa, Linda
MomofJosh
MomofJosh

It is difficult spending time during the last few weeks of an ill person. I remember reading the Bible to my grandmother in hospice. I read until my throat was gone. She still was as if sleeping or coma like. I gave up in my quest to finish the whole Bible.

I look forward to hearing about another culture and landscape.

Take care,
Leda
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

Grateful that you can companion your friend\'s sister and also know how difficult that can be...

Way to go for planning some fun trips and having things to look forward to. If travel is one of them then I say go for it as you are! Early birthday wishes your way from me to you too.

Unattended Sorrow was a book that really helped me and it feels as if his words are touching you as well.

Enjoy as you plan your upcoming travels and loving care always your way dear Marlene.

XO Joanie
RememberKala
RememberKala

Peace surround your friend and her sister during this very emotional and sad time. You are a gift to both of them.

WOW! The Galapaos Islands!!! I\'m SOOO jealous! Our previous CPA went a few years ago and the pictures she took were amazing...more than amazing. Hopefully I\'ll be able to go one day...until then, I\'ll live my dream through your sharing and photo\'s once you return!!

I remember Joanie mentioning the book Unattended Sorrow. How right the author is...all we need...and all we can really handle.... is just a few steps ahead.
deleted_user
deleted_user

May your September be filled with peace and wonderful memories. Hey, and have a happy birthday too.
CorriesMom
CorriesMom

I love all your green smiley items! Trip planning is an exciting way to look forward even as we keep on driving in the dark.

I read \"Unattended Sorrow\" at one point awhile ago and refer to it quite a bit. There are many helpful concepts, insights and techniques embedded in that gem!

Here\'s to a happy week of celebrating YOU ~ with much love to you and Lisa ~ Debbie
jmk1973
jmk1973

Thanks so much, for the mention of the book, :Unattended Sorrow\". I am forever trying to make sense of what is left of my life. Reading has always been a means of escape for me. I am going to add it to my Kindle collection.
Planning such an exciting trip ( trips) sounds wonderful. It is always good to have something to look forward to :)
I have had to be at the bedside of someone dying and it is so painful to watch. You are a great friend to support your for Marie and her sister Jeanne.
I look forward to hearing about your trips and hopefully see some photos.
Happy early Birthday :)
((((HUGS))))....Julia
CFMOM2
CFMOM2

I will try that book. The girls were both in ICU at the end and it is very hard to be there. I spent the night and morning and work the 1-9 shift except for the last week. With my youngest, I didn\'t expect it to happen. Really didn\'t want to give up hope and I don\'t know if she was ready. Her husband said after to me that she knew and was resigned to it. That does not help at all.
My oldest knew and we did prepare, so I have some peace in the knowledge that she was ready if that is at all possible. God give me strength. Love to all of you.