THIS IS A  EMAIL I RECIEVED SOMETIME AGO FROM ONE OF MY CO-SPONCERS WITH 25 YEARS SOBRIETY AND A VERY WISE MAN,  CONCERNING TOXIC PEOPLE OR POWERLESS OVER PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS.When it comes to other people I need to remember that they are exactly where they are suppose to be whether I like it or not.  I used to view some of them as toxic to me but, I don't do that anymore.  I have learned to be patient and turn them over to my hp "higher power"  Thier problem is not mine.  I believe he, she or it has a lesson he is trying to teach them that they havenn't learned yet.  Hopefully I won't get caught up trying to argue with someone who doean't see my point of view. That's okay. I can just walk away.  There is nothing worth jeopardizing our peace and serenity is carrying on any futher conversation.  You have a right to your opinion and I have a right to mine.  We may not agree but we have to respect eacpoint of view.  I have been humbled serveral times lately when I absolutely positively convinced that I was right and knew the answer to the problem I was totally blown out of the water with a diffrent point of view that worked better.  Go figure...So I keep praying for  THE WILLINGNESS TO CHANGE. I know when someone or something does that pisses me off I do some soul searching to find out why it bothers me like it does.  Has my pride been hurt? is it a threat to my security or will it change my life style?  Will it affect me financially?  Is it changing my perceived role within my family? Am I martying myself to gain recognition or praise? By working the steps I have learned more about the real me then I ever knew before/  I have learned to pay attention when those old defects of character start to raise their ugly head and flair up loke a spoiled brat.  It  usually takes some time to figure out whats going on but, I have learned to slow down and be cautious until I can figure out whats going on.. Sometimes its nothing. other times it's a big deal and just the tip of a hugeiceburg that I was heading for full speed ahead. I have  learned to pay attention to my senses. I don't ignore that stuff anymore.  Preceed with caution.. Maybe this will help someone who is struggling with character defects today, which in my opiion everyone has but for us with are addictions go to EXTREME, at times.