Again!!

Another "lovely" phone conversation with Mean Sister (she is really earning that name!!). I call the other day to see how she & her husband were, since there were very severe storms up in her area (tornado potential). Conversation goes normally...for a while...She recommends a restaurant that I'll be near next month...I make a comment that I'll look it up on my iPhone so I can find it easily...then she gets her digs in. Fortunately, I took the high road & made a joke out of it, but...
Never mind what she says; the pattern is the same: normal conversation; I say something completely neutral; she criticizes it. The only unknown factor is: when during the conversation will it happen? I know: when I'm least expecting it! Ugh!
So it bothered me for a while, then I realized (again, knowing I've "realized" this before): just because she says/implies something does not make it true/a fact. What she says/implies comes out of her; it is not me. As I've read on another forum:
[Mean Sister] can go deal with her issues somewhere else. Not in my head. Not at the expense of my worth and value.
What am I, then? Resourceful! Smart! Efficient! Forgiving! (yes, in spite of being angry!) Caring! I treat others the way I want to be treated! This is the truth...these are the facts!

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JOYHOLY
JOYHOLY

JUST BE WISE AND KNOW WHEN IT GOES TOO FAR, LOVE LUCY***
CintheHood
CintheHood

Yeah, that\'s the trick...she is real sneaky!