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Hi everyone, so I have happy news to share. Baby Isabella is not out of mummy's tummy yet so that's good. Christina's due date is 2/9 so she's coming. But this news is entirely different.
My son Eddie as all of you know was my only child. I am so missing being able to "mother" someone. I do guide my grandchildren, but its different. They have a mom. My son had a dear friend named Donna who he had been friends with for 10 years prior to his passing. Nothing romantic-just good friends. Donna's mom passed almost 6 years ago from cancer. She was only 55. Ed was a huge support to Donna through the 2 year ordeal of her mom's illness and subsequent passing. I had become close to Donna during that period too. Donna has 2 sons. One is 14 and the other is her son from her current marriage - he is 2. When Eddie passed Donna asked me if I'd like to be an adoptive Grammy to her boys and I accepted - happily. Since Ed's passing I have gotten close to the boys as I take being a Grammy very seriously. I had asked Josh & Christina if they would be willing to share me with Donna's boys & they said that it was a great idea. They know how much Donna & her older son miss her mom. Donna & I went out to lunch the other day and we talked about how having each other in our lives doesn't replace Ed or her mom, but we help fill a void in each other's lives. I said, "Well, why don't I just adopt you as well?" (actually Ken & I had been talking about ways we can make Donna feel more a part of her family. She has never had a Dad in her life). Anyway, Donna burst into tears and said she couldn't ask for anyone better to be her second mom! (then I cried!). Donna then told me that about a week ago she had said to her husband that she sort of wished I could adopt her too so we'd really be a family. I know that she has come to think of me in that way. She calls me for advice regarding her boys and other things and we talk or text daily and visit often and on holidays we get together. She is an adult, clearly, but I think we all feel the need to belong. I think we will have some kind of ceremony - hmmm, maybe I'll ask ourr minister to bless our new family.
I know no one can replace her sweet mom Theresa and no one can replace my beloved Eddie, but I do not know how to not to be a mom and Donna misses someone being in that role. Her 2 boys, Kyle and Walter are very special and her hubby is great. He is a wonderful Dad to Walter his son and also a great Dad to Kyle his stepson. He's so good with the baby I call him Superdada! In fact when Donna went home to tell him that we are a new family he asked, "whose going to adopt me?" I told him he gets a MIL and a FIL. He said, "great!
Ken & I are also considering taking classes to be licensed to adopt in Massachusetts. I had always wanted to adopt an older child since they are so hard to place and I have worked with troubled youth before so I feel I could handle a teen who has been through a lot. The irony of it is that I talked to Eddie the summer before he passed about wanting to foster or adopt a teen. He said, "Mom, do it!". So I know Eddie approves and that means a lot.
So my family is growing with the new additions of Chrsitina's baby coming soon & Donna & her children.
Thank you God for my close relationship with Donna.
Thank you, Eddie. You have given me so many gifts while you walked this earth and so many since you went to Heaven too. I nver would have met Donna if not for you, so thank you. I love you so much and miss you every minute. xoxo Mom
Love you all. I wish you a peaceful day.
My son Eddie as all of you know was my only child. I am so missing being able to "mother" someone. I do guide my grandchildren, but its different. They have a mom. My son had a dear friend named Donna who he had been friends with for 10 years prior to his passing. Nothing romantic-just good friends. Donna's mom passed almost 6 years ago from cancer. She was only 55. Ed was a huge support to Donna through the 2 year ordeal of her mom's illness and subsequent passing. I had become close to Donna during that period too. Donna has 2 sons. One is 14 and the other is her son from her current marriage - he is 2. When Eddie passed Donna asked me if I'd like to be an adoptive Grammy to her boys and I accepted - happily. Since Ed's passing I have gotten close to the boys as I take being a Grammy very seriously. I had asked Josh & Christina if they would be willing to share me with Donna's boys & they said that it was a great idea. They know how much Donna & her older son miss her mom. Donna & I went out to lunch the other day and we talked about how having each other in our lives doesn't replace Ed or her mom, but we help fill a void in each other's lives. I said, "Well, why don't I just adopt you as well?" (actually Ken & I had been talking about ways we can make Donna feel more a part of her family. She has never had a Dad in her life). Anyway, Donna burst into tears and said she couldn't ask for anyone better to be her second mom! (then I cried!). Donna then told me that about a week ago she had said to her husband that she sort of wished I could adopt her too so we'd really be a family. I know that she has come to think of me in that way. She calls me for advice regarding her boys and other things and we talk or text daily and visit often and on holidays we get together. She is an adult, clearly, but I think we all feel the need to belong. I think we will have some kind of ceremony - hmmm, maybe I'll ask ourr minister to bless our new family.
I know no one can replace her sweet mom Theresa and no one can replace my beloved Eddie, but I do not know how to not to be a mom and Donna misses someone being in that role. Her 2 boys, Kyle and Walter are very special and her hubby is great. He is a wonderful Dad to Walter his son and also a great Dad to Kyle his stepson. He's so good with the baby I call him Superdada! In fact when Donna went home to tell him that we are a new family he asked, "whose going to adopt me?" I told him he gets a MIL and a FIL. He said, "great!
Ken & I are also considering taking classes to be licensed to adopt in Massachusetts. I had always wanted to adopt an older child since they are so hard to place and I have worked with troubled youth before so I feel I could handle a teen who has been through a lot. The irony of it is that I talked to Eddie the summer before he passed about wanting to foster or adopt a teen. He said, "Mom, do it!". So I know Eddie approves and that means a lot.
So my family is growing with the new additions of Chrsitina's baby coming soon & Donna & her children.
Thank you God for my close relationship with Donna.
Thank you, Eddie. You have given me so many gifts while you walked this earth and so many since you went to Heaven too. I nver would have met Donna if not for you, so thank you. I love you so much and miss you every minute. xoxo Mom
Love you all. I wish you a peaceful day.
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can u adopt me please xxxxxxxx
Kelsey, I would be happy to be there for you as long as you allow me to be in your life. Love you!!
This is a beautiful journal of joy and new beginnings! My heart bursts with happiness for you, Ken, Donna, Donna\'s husband, all the grandkids (and soon to be great-grandbaby) and Eddie! Such love, such open sharing. Wow, just wow!
Love and big hugs all around ~ Debbie
Hey, I wanna be your adopted girl friend! This is a great, great story and I wish all of you the very best God has to offer! Blessings!
Becky
me. too..me, too..... :)....you are an inspiration and Donna and her family are truly blessed...as is all of us for knowing you. I think you have such a big heart with room for everyone! God bless you....I know Eddie is beaming with pride for his mom.....love you dear friend....dale, brandon\'s mom
Just brought me to tears. How right you are. These needs of ours, we all understand. I just wish, for me, that Jacob\'s role in my life could be clearer, more evident, and healing as your son\'s is to you. Of course it\'s not yet a year, I still have time to recognize his ongoing relationship with me. thanks, abby
This is such a great story of coping with the terrible things that we have to deal with in life by making positive steps to heal the wounds. What a great way to honor your son\'s memory and do something that would certainly merit his wholehearted approval.
You are an inspiration to me.
What a caring, giving person you are! Eddie must be very proud of you. I wonder if he orchestrated it! I admire you wanting to adopt an older child. You are so right - not many people feel they could manage a troubled teen; but you have the skills.
I am so glad Christina has hung on to Baby Isabella!
Have a great weekend!
Hugs, Marlene - Lisa\'s Mum
Great News all around. The baby will be full term. That is wonderful. As for Donna and the boys...How lucky to have another family. How lucky for them to have you and your husband. It is great to open your heart to share and love. I try to spread a bit of loving to my nieces and nephrews little ones and to Cory\'s friends and their family. I know all involved are happy to accept me. Love to you and your \"family\". Peggy
What a joyful journal. It seems to me that God in this goodness prepared the way for the void in your lives to be filled. Of coure, He knew ahead of time that there would be a need. What a big heart you have and so much love to share!! Linda
Congratulations to you and Donna and all the \"new\" family. Wonderful joyous news
Happy happy joy joy as Jim said as a little boy! Adopting, as you know, I am all in favor of it!!! And an older child at your age is a good idea too, esp with your knowledge. (How about an older Chilean child with big brown eyes: :) )
That is so kind and sweet of you.
Much love and kindness to you.
Nell
Oh, the joy of a new beginning in so many ways. This is so encouraging to read and thank you for sharing your happiness with us. Big smiles from me across the snowy mountains to you. :) :) :) Much love, Joanie
Linda this is wonderful...it is a win win situation for everyone involved. I think that adopting a teen is a very brave thing to do...lol...but sooo wonderful. Love to you sweet woman...Karen