Update
Hi everyone, i just wanted to give everyone an update. As you know my co-worker Chris lost her second brother to a sudden cardiac death. She is doing as well as can be expected. She has 2 living brothers & her mom Jean & her dad Chet.
Her dad just had bypass surgery & is expected to make a full recovery!! The doctors are watching him closely, but all is looking good. i have been in touch with Jean and she is doing ok with the support of her family. I have spoken to her a couple of times & asked if she would like some books that were helpful to me. She accepted them and I think they are helping. i shared DS & FMO with her so maybe she'll join us. I told her if she wants to attend CF I would go with her. We just need to find a meeting midway since we live a good 45 minutes apart. Thank you all so much for your healing thoughts and prayers for this dear family.
Update on mother. I sent her the letter. 4 pages of explaining what my life & journey look like since my beloved Eddie went to Heaven. I asked her 3 things. Not to give me cliches about my loss or say cruel things, not to say cruel things about Josh & Christina (Ed's kids) or to complain about them & how they don't pay attention to her and finally to lessen her demands on me as I need to heal & cocoon right now. The letter was "I" messages as I didn't want to point the finger and I did say that I didn't want to assign a motive to her actions, that I believed her statements were not thought out & that she didn't realize the impact.
Then the calls began. i didn't answer several & then got fed up & answered. She asked why we couldn't get along? I said I get along fine. I need you to stop saying cruel things & i asked her if she even read the letter. she said, "yes". I said, "what is your understanding of it?" She replied, "that you don't want to see me." I have to laugh. I guess once a narcissist, always a narcissist. I explained its up to her. Tone it down & we can have some sort of relationship. She said she"would try". I said, "No, you need to do it." She said she would improve. For her, that's huge, lol. I'll keep you posted.
Have a peaceful day. Love to all.
Her dad just had bypass surgery & is expected to make a full recovery!! The doctors are watching him closely, but all is looking good. i have been in touch with Jean and she is doing ok with the support of her family. I have spoken to her a couple of times & asked if she would like some books that were helpful to me. She accepted them and I think they are helping. i shared DS & FMO with her so maybe she'll join us. I told her if she wants to attend CF I would go with her. We just need to find a meeting midway since we live a good 45 minutes apart. Thank you all so much for your healing thoughts and prayers for this dear family.
Update on mother. I sent her the letter. 4 pages of explaining what my life & journey look like since my beloved Eddie went to Heaven. I asked her 3 things. Not to give me cliches about my loss or say cruel things, not to say cruel things about Josh & Christina (Ed's kids) or to complain about them & how they don't pay attention to her and finally to lessen her demands on me as I need to heal & cocoon right now. The letter was "I" messages as I didn't want to point the finger and I did say that I didn't want to assign a motive to her actions, that I believed her statements were not thought out & that she didn't realize the impact.
Then the calls began. i didn't answer several & then got fed up & answered. She asked why we couldn't get along? I said I get along fine. I need you to stop saying cruel things & i asked her if she even read the letter. she said, "yes". I said, "what is your understanding of it?" She replied, "that you don't want to see me." I have to laugh. I guess once a narcissist, always a narcissist. I explained its up to her. Tone it down & we can have some sort of relationship. She said she"would try". I said, "No, you need to do it." She said she would improve. For her, that's huge, lol. I'll keep you posted.
Have a peaceful day. Love to all.
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