Life around here sure has changed since Brendy`s Dad is not messing up our lives on a daily basis.The last time we heard anything about him was when our niece sent her no good husband to live with him.I think they deserve each other,they are both self centered and don`t care about anyone else.I just wonder how long they can stay in the same house together without killing each other.I said that life has chnged around here because Brendy is much calmer and she is not being tied in nott`s all the time because of her Dad.I t does make things simpler when you don`t have to keep picking up the pieces after he does something that Brendy has to straighten out or is just mean about.We did find out that he has been telling everyone that Brendy has been spending all his money and not telling him what it is for.The only things that she has spent his money on is him and he knows it,I think he was just saying that so that Brendy would either go over to his house or call him.Like I said we haven`t had anything to do with him since he pulled his stunt at the assisted living home and got kicked out.Brendy still pay`s his bill`s and has tried to get his day care people to take some money to buy groceries,but she has not been able to get them to do it yet.The only reason she was trying to get them to do that was because he would send them to the store with twenty dollars and ask them to get him over one hundred dollars worth of food.He was also not buying things he needed for higene,like soap,shompoo,pull-ups,cleaning products.And he still has not replaced his stove that has needed to have been replaced 5 years ago because it leaks gas and you can`t fix it anymore.I guess I got started off on the wrong foot today,thinking about Brendy`s Dad and what we have given up to try and help him out.The last 10 years we would use our vacation and come down here and fix up things around his place and clean his place,make sure he had things to eat and keep clean and arrange for a health care provider to come in and help him with his daily life.I guess I am bitter because he did everything in his power to tear Brendy`s heart out and all I could do was watch and try and pick up the pieces after he got through kicking her around mentally.Right now I don`t know if us moving back here was a good idea or not,at least when we were in Colorado we knew that we could get away from him and didn`t have to go out of our way to stay away from him.Now we just don`t go over to his place and we deleted our phone numbers from his phones so that he can`t call us,I don`t think he knows how touse directory assistance because we have told him that we don`t want him to call us for anything.I guess I have said enough about him ,maybe I got it all out and can go on without having to think about him and what he has done and will continue to do to his own family.I know that God say`s to Honor your Mother and Father but I don`t think He intended for us to have to put up with all the crap that we have so far.Your friendMonte