I am so frustrated with my daughter, she is in a really good treatment center, she has been there since June, She is doing well as far as following the rules,but she thinks that is all she has to do so she can come home, She tells the therapist that she doesnot need to be there and has nothing worng with her and that we just do not want her, she is mad because she will not be home for the 1st day of school and she soemtimes will participate in group therapy and then makes up these big ole stories about hersef,. she will not do any of the excerices the therapist gives her to do,, she thinks the therapist hates her and does not want her to come home, She keeps telling me she has learned her lesson and is ready to come home, I tell her she is not there to learn a lesson she is not there because she is bad, she is there so we can figure out why we do the things we do,, and until we do that nothing is going to change for her,, it will be the same,, she then tells me that we just do not want her that we are so happy she is there.. wich I j\know is her way of trying to make us feel bad for her being there and to come and get her, even though it still hurts that she is saying those things and no matter what I say to her I am not at that time going to convince her any different. so I will usaully tell her that it sounds like amybe we need to end the conversation and I will call her the next day,, I try to to let her vent but therapist says to also work with her on respecting me when she is talking to me. it is jut so frustrationg becaue once she allows the therapsit to help her then she will really start healing and feeling better, and be able to come home, but we cannot make her do that, she has to choose it,, the therapist is also fruatrated,, she was really hoping to see some results by now,,  we go every two weeks for therapy and I am really hoping before to long that she will figure out that it is not about bieng good and follwong the rules even though that is important, it it is about figuring out why we act out the way we do and choosing other ways and healthoer ways to dealing with it,, ugh I wish I could just push a button and make it all better for her, talk about feeling like a failure,, I cannot even help my daughter figure things out,,

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Boy do I know what you are feeling. We are placing our daughter with a cousin 5 hours away for the school year to get a break from each other. She is on a cleaning kick to make us change our minds. It\'s so hard to give them what they need when they just think we want to get rid of them. Hang in it has to get better.