10 good things to make up for one bad thing......

Whew....another stressful day.....received a letter complaining about an employee....from someone who is probably a nut from the sounds of the letter.  This morning I got a wonderful commendation from someone I respect for how I handled a difficult situation.....why does the complaint letter take up so much room in my head and mess up my mood instead of me basking in the glow of the really wonderful things said to me earlier today????  . ...... I have read it takes 10 good things to make up for one bad thing for the average person.....That just seems like a ratio I don't really want to live in.....10 good to strike off one bad......seems like a way to live life in a very unhappy place.      Sooooooooooo....tonight I will think about the beautiful things that were said to me by someone I esteem, and spend less mental time on the nasty things said about my employee (and by association my business) by someone I don't even know or respect.  I don't want my peace and positivity  (and probably my recovery in a way) to be so weak or vulnerable to everyone passing by who wants to take a shot at it.  I need to not let bad things hit me so hard.....and this, for me, might be one of the keys to recovery.   Right now, this takes a lot of effort, maybe it will get easier if I keep at it!  I have to learn to talk to myself in a different way, and choose what things I will spend my mental time on.  Is that really possible???  I hope so.... If I choose not to be so deeply affected by the negative, maybe I won't feel I have to escape.....to numb out....to gamble.  Maybe I can keep it together a little more to be able to enjoy life a little more, to have the strength to do the work I need to make my life a better place.