When I first came to DS, I went to the Depression board. Within 24 hours, I was shocked by how evil and nasty that place was. It was really sick. I couldn't believe the admins let that kind of attacking and abuse go on. I stopped coming to DS, but then I check back and checked out some other boards. So I stopped being a member of the Depression board and stuck with the boards like this one, US Women, and Pet Lovers, where people are kind and supportive of each other.

What a coincidence you should post this. I have been feeling quite upset about some of the vicious posts in the obesity group, even though I'm not involved, just reading them makes me wince. Some members lose the weight and stay around to give support and advice to the rest of us. I find their pics and posts inspirational and motivating. The trouble is some of the members attack and it gets harsh and ugly until the person gets hounded out and then they just carry on as if nothing has happened. Trying to decide whether to use the ignore button or leave the group. There are many lovely people in the group, but the nastiness spoils the whole group for me.

wow I am so sorry. I hear about stuff like that but I have not seen it or been a part of it. This is a great group and you can find alot of friends here, and if you would like you may contact me personally.

I totally agree, there seems to be alot of bickering on the fibro board so i dont even want to post anything. There seems to be a certain group that stick together have have taken over the board.

I found that on the boards, anxiety, depression, etc... but I've found that when you go into the Groups, it is a totally different atmosphere.. there people started them because they have a passion for the purpose of the group.

This is the first group I joined and I've found it to be very supportive, very warm and just an awesome group of women :) :)

Friend19, if you are looking for a good group for anxiety type things I can give you the name of a really supportive one with emphasis on the positive.

I have seen in groups where there was some trouble, but it was quickly dealt with by the admins and the founder.

I've only been here since August and I've met a lot of really genuine, caring people. I've also met some who are not.. but their not on my friends list and I choose not to dwell on it in any way.

There is always good and bad.. I guess we just have to choose our own path and know when to take up a cross for an ideal or not.

Just my 2 cents.

Hugs, J. :)

You know I thought about joining the depression group or some other support groups but I like to check into it first to see how it is. And have seen some criticism, I did not like the way it sounded and so it scared me off. I really enjoy being on the Womens Only group and have found no trouble here or bashing. So I prefer this one and the pet one mostly. Thanks for creating this WO group.

I had a similar experience in the Rape group where it seemed every time I opened my mouth my head was bitten off so I go without their so called support. I also have a friend in the Bipolar group who is continually hounded - this is so sad that this SUPPORT site has turned so nasty for some of us and probably more than we know about. I think we should all stay here and support each other from here.

I have found the same as Friend19 and left a couple of groups which I then promptly rejoined because I think that its not the group as a whole but just a couple of members who enjoy hurting people and making trouble - I feel that such people use the groups to entertain themselves or feel powerful when they hurt people and get them to leave. I've had some nasty remarks but I won't let anybody make me leave - I say what I feel and unless the person who criticises me has a valid point which I acknowledge or someone who doesn't get what I am trying to say in which case I will explain myself more fully I don't worry - I also don't bother to be nasty in return, one member told me not to reply to his discussions and I told him in words to the effect that I understood, respected his decision and I would abide by it. Ladies just do your best and don't let a couple of people force you out of a group, maybe if we ignore the nasties they will just go away! Take care everybody and have a great day.

Wow! I didn't realize they were so many ppl who felt the same... Thanks for the comments and support=) HUGS

I got out of my 7 groups because of all the negativity. If you don't agree with how they handles certain situations they go nuts. It becomes toxic and I avoid things like that. It makes things worst. This site is awesome...so much support and friendship.

It is like being in school because the "Pretty People" had a group & then their was us .
I have a depression problem [doctor say bi-polar disorder ] all my life trying to fit in SOMEWHERE [anywhere] & so cannot handle the bashing any more as well as I did when I was younger . I get on the computer to get away from it & this group [DS] has helped me a lot .
pauline

OMG..The "war and Terrorism" group is frigen nuts! I swear to God I felt like I was going to have an attack. The bashing and name calling is horrible. I may go on there once in a while, but when I find myself getting pissed which is all the time and I start answering a post I wipe it out because it's just not worth the aggravation. Take care..I'm with you friend..Big Hugs

The main depression board seems to have many insensetive members on it more to play games that really support. I avoid it and usually ask questions on the treatment section. There is also a Depression anonymous member group that I have peeked in on that doesn't have the drama of the main board. Unfortunely what you are talking about seems to happen a lot on the depresion board. In fact many of the post are complaint post about this on the main depression community. DS has tryed to keep it down. Just trouble makers. Sorry you had to experience this when you are looking for help.

I belong to a really great Anxiety Group that I would recommend to anyone who feels that they would benefit from a positive enviroment.

I agree that the main message boards are a place to stay away from. Most of us are here to get away from negativity .. we don't need to subject ourselves to it in this enviroment.

I also found that there are trolls on those boards that are praying on people in pain for their own gain.

J.

I belong to a really great Anxiety Group that I would recommend to anyone who feels that they would benefit from a positive enviroment.

I agree that the main message boards are a place to stay away from. Most of us are here to get away from negativity .. we don't need to subject ourselves to it in this enviroment.

I also found that there are trolls on those boards that are praying on people in pain for their own gain.

J.