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At the age of 28 i feel very distant with my mom. My mother is a great woman. She has been there for me all my life. I am lucky to have grown up with both my parents. I dont feel the connection with my mom though. Most of the times i have this hate feel that runs through me. My mom made sure i had everything, paid for my school, provide for everything. we were never close . I cannot open up to her and tell her anything. In short we do not have a mother to daughter relationship. Perhaps because my mom is a perfectionist and i also feel that she is not understanding. I do not feel comfortable telling her anything because she will judge you in some way. She sees the worst in people. When were young she was never pleased with anything we did.
she told one of my cousins that i dont like her. Which is true, i would like to talk to someone who is understanding. Well i dont hate my mom but i hate her character. How do i build our relationship? I am not married as i went back to university after working for sometimes i had to go and study for a second degree. I still depend on her and live in the same house with her. We hardly ever talk about anything then just things in general.
I will appreciate your input
she told one of my cousins that i dont like her. Which is true, i would like to talk to someone who is understanding. Well i dont hate my mom but i hate her character. How do i build our relationship? I am not married as i went back to university after working for sometimes i had to go and study for a second degree. I still depend on her and live in the same house with her. We hardly ever talk about anything then just things in general.
I will appreciate your input
That being said, it also seems to me that she too is concerned about the relationship, especially since she confided in a cousin that she thinks you don't like her. It's also possible to love someone and not like them. My sister is a good example - we don't hate each other, but we have nothing in common, and I think she is a phony like you wouldn't believe! But, I love her and would do anything I could to help her if she needed me. But then, we don't live in the same house!
I think you should just bite the bullet, sit her down, and tell her that you feel there is a wall between the two of you, that you believe you have conflicting personalities, but that you love her and appreciate her, and want to know what she thinks can be done to bridge the gap and be closer. You may even suggest counseling for the two of you.
I wish you all the best in this. Dixie