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I started to reply to the discussion about spouses/partners, but I realized I'm an emotional wreck today. I feel so alone and SCARED.
I became involved with someone last summer but I think it has to end now. I admired his willingness to be with me despite my chronic illness, but as usual, no one can take it very long. I thought he understood when I had to break a date due to illness. I thought he understood that I'm willing to help him through informal professional advice but it has to be when my brain is working, not at his schedule. I thought he understood that I can't keep to any schedule, let alone his. Always has to be his, his time, his place.
Went through 2 days of pain helping him with something. Now he won't finish what we started. I push him, to make it not be in vain. He says, why are you doing this to me? Doing WHAT??? He helps me with chores that take him 3 minutes but that I can't get done because of illness. I put myself out for him. He yells at me. I can't take stress. I can't take any stress.
If I'm "doing something" to him, and honestly, I can't think of a thing to apologize for, then we should stop seeing each other. I'm lonely and helpless, true, but my house will remain a mess rather than take on stress from him. I was saving him thousands of dollars, and he accuses me of doing things to him????
I have been crying all weekend. All my friends have left or have died. I've had an incredible amount of loss in the last several years. No family or friends left. Lost my livelihood to my illness. I once had a full life and now I stare at the wall. If it weren't for my pets I'd go insane. There are so many good people on here, yet I rarely have the strength to come online and find support, and I feel bad that I don't have the strength to support others. So isolated and frightened. How can I take care of myself and my dogs? I'm overwhelmed with fear. Thanks for listening.
There's a tropical storm raging outside. It's kind of comforting. I wish it would calm my raging emotions. I'm so frightened of everything, so afraid. Even people I pay don't do what I pay them for;. A guy was supposed to cut my neighbor's encroaching tree branches. i paid him and he didn't do it and now there's a tropical storm raging and that tree might damage my roof.
What is wrong with me? I can't focus. It's a holiday, and there's a storm, so I'm missing nothing. Haven't even lost power--yet. I do have to work tomorrow morning. One morning a week. Have to prepare, but anxiety keeps me from concentrating on that that.
How do I concentrate when I'm crying and so afraid?
Sorry for crying and rambling and not making sense. Please tell me I exist. I don't think anyone knows I'm in here.
I became involved with someone last summer but I think it has to end now. I admired his willingness to be with me despite my chronic illness, but as usual, no one can take it very long. I thought he understood when I had to break a date due to illness. I thought he understood that I'm willing to help him through informal professional advice but it has to be when my brain is working, not at his schedule. I thought he understood that I can't keep to any schedule, let alone his. Always has to be his, his time, his place.
Went through 2 days of pain helping him with something. Now he won't finish what we started. I push him, to make it not be in vain. He says, why are you doing this to me? Doing WHAT??? He helps me with chores that take him 3 minutes but that I can't get done because of illness. I put myself out for him. He yells at me. I can't take stress. I can't take any stress.
If I'm "doing something" to him, and honestly, I can't think of a thing to apologize for, then we should stop seeing each other. I'm lonely and helpless, true, but my house will remain a mess rather than take on stress from him. I was saving him thousands of dollars, and he accuses me of doing things to him????
I have been crying all weekend. All my friends have left or have died. I've had an incredible amount of loss in the last several years. No family or friends left. Lost my livelihood to my illness. I once had a full life and now I stare at the wall. If it weren't for my pets I'd go insane. There are so many good people on here, yet I rarely have the strength to come online and find support, and I feel bad that I don't have the strength to support others. So isolated and frightened. How can I take care of myself and my dogs? I'm overwhelmed with fear. Thanks for listening.
There's a tropical storm raging outside. It's kind of comforting. I wish it would calm my raging emotions. I'm so frightened of everything, so afraid. Even people I pay don't do what I pay them for;. A guy was supposed to cut my neighbor's encroaching tree branches. i paid him and he didn't do it and now there's a tropical storm raging and that tree might damage my roof.
What is wrong with me? I can't focus. It's a holiday, and there's a storm, so I'm missing nothing. Haven't even lost power--yet. I do have to work tomorrow morning. One morning a week. Have to prepare, but anxiety keeps me from concentrating on that that.
How do I concentrate when I'm crying and so afraid?
Sorry for crying and rambling and not making sense. Please tell me I exist. I don't think anyone knows I'm in here.
It sounds like you are at a critical point in your relationship and are overwhelmed. What I do when I feel that way is to just do nothing. Let everything slide until I feel the strength to face the situation again and make a decision. Sometimes just taking a step back helps you see things clearer.
I'm happy you have pets. They are truly good loving companions. I have two dogs that I cherish. I also hope you are spared any damage from the tropical storm.
Well I hope you feel better. You absolutely do exist and sound like a very nice person to me.
Take care and sending many hugs, Patricia :-)
I hope you are spared damages from the storm and that you will soon feel better. Just remember, do what you can and don't stress out about the little stuff....I have done that a lot over the years and it probably won't matter tomorrow. Sending you Hugsxxxx Bonnie
WHEN YOU FACE THE SUN THE SHADOWS ALWAYS FALL BEHIND YOU (Helen Keller)
Helen Keller, the famed 19th century deaf-blind American writer, once wrote: “When you face the sun, the shadows always fall behind you.” The story of Helen Keller is the story of a normal child who, at the age of 18 months, was suddenly shut off from the world but, against overwhelming odds, waged a slow, hard but successful battle to re-enter that same world. The child grew into a highly intelligent and sensitive woman who wrote, spoke and labored relentlessly for the betterment of others.
In our day and age, we are quick to consider ourselves victims. We are all victims of some sort of emotional or social or gender or racial abuse. These problems often result from political and economic blunders we’re all subjected to, be it at the national or the global scale.
Obviously, Helen Keller had challenges most of us can’t even imagine. Instead of becoming pre-occupied by her physical disabilities, she faced the realities head on.
She turned her ‘perceived’ weakness into strength. That’s probably why we didn’t hear Helen Keller complain of being from a dysfunctional family, or of being a woman, or of not being given enough government aid to compensate her handicaps. She didn’t focus on the ‘shadows’ when there was another choice.
What I have found is that if I take just one step towards something I need to do - that seems to create a momentum all by itself - and I keep going somehow. But I also agree that when one can't do anything - doing nothing is the right thing to do sometimes.
I have to say that having someone in your life who screams at you is not good for your self-esteem and can, in and of itself cause fear. If you feel that the relationship is adding to your fear - it is probably not for you.
I hope the storm does not strike you home and that you will be safe.
I also want to say that wolves are my favorite animals - I love your avatar.
Please come back and let us help you. You don't need to help anyone until you are ready. Let us support you in this dark time.{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}
So thanks, new friends. I will be back.