Debbie, I am married and not alone as you are. There are times I am alone for short periods of time and I do enjoy getting out and doing things alone. I love to take walks, go to the park and watch the children play, and go to the coffee shop and read. I loved the video. Very wise advice to help someone that may be new and struggling with being alone. Thank you for a very good post.

Thank you Ocean. Glad you liked the video. I don't do the things she does because I live out in the woods, but I like to take walks with my dogs, go outside and soak in the scenery, or allow myself to enjoy a good nap. I am starting to enjoy cooking for myself, which I haven't in the past. The more I soak in God's love, the more I love who I am and enjoy living.

~ Debra

I'm alone and I enjoy the fact that I don't have to report in to anyone.

It is lonely sometimes but I do like my total freedom.

I've come to term with loneliness since 2007 and living overseas in a very international kind of community. At first I dived in and was part of the community and had a great time. But it took me a year to realise there was a lot of bad stuff going on and I just didn't want to be associated with it. So I retreated, have a few friends but very much on my own. It wasn't easy being lonely but I found my Christian faith inproved hugely and with the internet I can always be in touch with people just like here on DS. I'm at peace with my aloneness now and right now I accept and embrace it.

I have never being married, but I have my dogs and I like to read and do crafts.

I have always felt lonely.. Like kinda i have embraced it.. i try to keep busy, I have a wonderful hubby an Mum, but i have always been the person in a room full of people and still feel lonely.. I really think it is part of my make up, because actually I can be petty anti soaicl.. I had freinds, but when i got sick 24 years ago, they all fled off, one by one.. I havea two good friends , but they live miles and miles away,.. but we do keep in touch... I have had a lot of controlling freinds in the past, so it makes me wary, as with my illness i cant commit to things, and for some reason that upsets people, they dont understand that i have to have some quality of life and my life needs to be ordered in order for me to maintain my health..I have so many inspiring friends here on this page for example, who have so much wisdom and life experience , that more and more i value them each and every day..XXX

Wow! I can relate to all of your feelings and ways that you embrace or cope with being alone and even feeling alone when you are surrounded by people.
Clay, I have felt the same way, and have talked with many people who also feel alone in the midst of people. I think it has more to do with deep issues of trust. At least for me, the more I let God show me the root of my feelings of loneliness, the more He showed me memories, as a child, where I decided people were not trustworthy and put up invisible walls to protect myself. Slowly, bit by bit, I am being healed. Restoring the Foundations has really help me to do this. If you are interested go to rtfi.org to find a team near you.

Love you,
Debra

So far we have ways to embrace and/or cope with being alone:
1 go to the park and watch children play
2. go for walks
3. go to the coffee shop
4. read
5. don't have to report to anyone = freedom
6. Christian faith
7. interacting with people on the internet
8. have dogs
9. do crafts
10. keep in touch with true friends

Good post Debra!

I agree Laraine sweety...., wonderful Debra XXX

Yay! Thanks!