Hi Roxanne: I have been asking God "Why" since July 27, 2016 when my husband Larry suddenly passed away from cardiac arrest, I kept asking why God chose to take him when he had just finished a grueling 8 weeks of radiation therapy for intermediate prostate cancer we never found out if the radiation treatments had actually done its job and obliterated the cancer we were suppose to have found out on July 29, 2017 but sadly he died on July 27th I was not interested in anything his doctors had to say because I blamed them for his death I do not think he died from cardiac arrest because he never had any type of cardiac problems but during his radiation treatments he began to experience severe shortness of breath and the doctors blamed it on the extremely hot weather we were having here in Alabama I told the doctors that he had worked in extremely hot environments and hot conditions did not bother him at all the doctors never listened to his lungs nor did they order any type of blood tests or scans or xrays or anything that would have shown a pulmonary embolism that is why I blamed the doctors you would have thought God would have given the doctors at least common sense to order some type of testing but I guess not.

Roxanne: First I must say I am truly sorry for all your losses. Your question is a excellent one. First I will share with you that I experienced a similar cluster. First my wife passed, then 5 months later my best friend. then my dad and then my mother in law a few months after that all from cancer. I presently have a sister who is terminal with a tumour in the brain. My sister who is presently terminal may be able to answer your question the best. When her grandson asked Why you? she said to him 'Why not me". I will explain.
My sister is very devout in her faith and quite fearless when it comes to life in general. She has sought every aggressive treatment possible but ultimately has made up her mind to surrender to Gods will whatever that my be. When I faced my initial cluster of 4 deaths that destroyed my world I turned away from God in anger for many months and felt nothing but more pain and restlessness. Then one day I finally decided to surrender to Gods will(Not easy to do in practise) and yes ever so gradually peace returned to my life. God loves us. He doesn't want to see us suffer. Why my cluster happened I will never understand. Why my sister has a tumour in her brain I will never understand. Why I was born in North America rather than poverty in Africa I will never understand. There are many many many things in life I will never understand. What I do know with all my heart is God is loving and I trust him. Surrendering to his will is the most difficult part of our faith journey but when we try to we move closer and closer to him and nothing is more beautiful then that, When Jesus died on the cross many people of that time didn't understand why a innocent man had to died. Yet that sacrifice saved the world from sin for those that open there heart to God. The Why question challenges us to ask another question. Do we trust God?
Sending A Big Canadian hug your way. Thank you for posting such a important question. God bless. Gerry

Hi Roxanne. Short answer, Nobody knows. Something inside me tells me that there is purpose in everything we go through. A chance to maybe learn something about ourselves we didn't know before. A chance to maybe never again take anyone for granted. A chance to maybe make a difference to one or many in whatever days we may have remaining. Or just maybe, a chance to kick our feet up, saying, Job well done, and just kick back and enjoy whatever remaining moments life brings our way. As for me, I have no one to care for but me. And I ain't easy. I have two brothers and their families back in the midwest, but there is reason I moved 1,800 miles away from there as a young man of 22. My 2 step children went there own way. The rest of Juanita's family (except 1) never cared much for me, nor me for them. Odd thing about it all, I have come to cherish my times of solitude. I have peace with being alone, balanced with a good friend I spend a whole lot of time with now. But I've got to have my alone time. Maybe when we grow comfortable with just being by ourselves, that is when our circle begins again. Hugs. ~~~ Scottie

Why? That question challenges us!??!
Dad died, my husband 10 months later & then Mom 2 years later.
We aren't given answers we desire many times, that's when we trust our Lord for guidance/strength
"I can rest upon HIS assurance that HIS grace will see me through every storm"
Blessings
jdp