Linda thank you for posting. I believe the signs are from our spouses but are a gift from God to comfort us. I dont think there is any manipulation on earth but rather another way our Creator comforts us in times of despair. For me the signs also indicate the spiritual world is much closer than we realize. For me the signs came most often in the first year. Among them were:

-the day of my wife's funeral and for a week after my dgt's car kept starting by itself. My wife wanted me to hve it checked before she passed. When I did bring it to a friend/mechanic there were serious safety concerns that had to be addressed. My mechanic also told me it was impossible for the car to start by itself. It did so 5 or 6 times before I got it checked and fixed. It hasnt done it since.
-My wife was Filpino and part of the tradition of that culture is the family gathers for 10 eve after they pass in prayer. On about 4 of those evenings during the prayers every light in the houses went off and on by itself. If I hadnt seen it myself I wouldnt have believed it.
-About 3 months after my wife passed I was in such despair I begged for a sign she was near by. Nothing happened that night. The next day on my front bottom step was a collection of pretty rocks. My wife loved collecting rocks.
-The signs for me have diminished over time. My dgt is still having very vivid dreams where her mom visits. My last sign was abt 6 months ago the day my dad passed. That night my wife came to me in a very vivid dream and said nothing but hugged me.
Needless to say those signs have given me tremendous comfort. For those that havent had signs dont despair. There is a time and reason for everything. What many people call conincidences are often signs. The question is are you willing to open yourself up to them. The signs I experienced I know in my heart were gifts from God. What others choose to believe is up to them. Free will is another gift from God also. Linda thanks again for posting. Gerry

I can feel the energy of spirits when I meditate. We have guardian angels that come to give us a helping hand, but only if we invite them to. The spirits are respectful of our intentions. I have had many signs from my husband. I don't think it's manipulating, rather they are there working as angels and helping God. I don't have concrete proof on my theory, but it helps me cope and get through the day. I have been positive and I attempt to enjoy life to the fullest.

Antonella

Gerry, that makes sense when you put it like that, the sign is from our spouse but sent by God. I hadn't thought about it like that. My latest sign came this past weekend when I was feeling particularly sad. I was sitting in my favorite chair and looked out the window and up. The beautiful big elm tree across the street had a heart in the branches. I don't know how a branch can grow outward and then back in on itself in a perfect heart, but there it is! . My husband used to do silly things with hearts. When we were going to redecorate a room he would paint a big heart and write I love you on the wall a few days before we painted. I have no doubt that the tree heart is from him. I will have it to look at all winter long and in the spring when the leaves come out I will still know it is there.

Antonella, when my children were little their guardian angels used to talk to me all the time. I also used to wake up in the night when I was little and see someone sitting on the end of my bed. I just knew it was my angel and found it very comforting.

Thank you both for your replies.

Linda

Linda, What a nice sign you are receiving . Be sure to take a picture of that heart. Just today in my daily meditation for working through grief. This book is "Healing after Loss" I'm sure It's still in bookstores. Mine is tattered. I've been reading it each day for nine years but today's message is about signs. By the way, I find feathers and consider them my signs. If I may, I would like to share some of today's reading.

When we are grieving, everything has significance. We see meaning in what appears to be random events and wonder what is going on. A flower blooms in our garden out of season. The phone rings when we are feeling desolate and lonely, and it is a friend who had a sudden urge to call. A bird lands on a tree branch outside our window chirping and singing for a long time. (For me it is blackbirds)
Is it possible that in the mysteries of creation, the Powers of God, the energies that move the world, even our departed loved ones--are looking out for us? we would like to think so. And when we get together with others who who have been through grief, we share our stories--shyly at first---and our skin tingles and our hearts are made glad and we think, Yes, it might be so. There is always room for doubt. There is also room for faith and hope That is the nature of mystery. I will accept as gifts all intimations of love and care.

I myself have had very few signs from sean, one seeing of an exact truck like his, going opposite direction than mine, then two,three dreams with sean in it, few times of hair standing up on end, one sighting of someone in my hall, but have had more signs from god throwing me scriptures, and I dont read/know the bible. Too coincidental, if you ask me. So i'm comforted by them, and that's all that matters.. hugs carla

I have had many signs from my husband since he passed...some bolder than others..When relaxed, I can see energy flitting around me, and one night I saw a pair of eyes...white against the black background ( I had my eyes closed at the time)...they were right there, staring at me...The latest sign came the other day when I was redeeming some Amazon gift certificates...it would have been our 20th anniversary last week...and when I went to look in the jewelry section, this ad jumped out at me that said 'Happy Anniversary' in big letters...although I was looking for a ring, this necklace jumped out at me...it looked exactly like something Tom would have picked for me, and I for him...so I ordered it, and it arrived on the date of our anniversary. I could go on and on about the signs I have got from him, but that would take too long...
I believe my son has sensed him, too...he's autistic, and non verbal...the other day, he was sitting on the couch looking toward the memorial I set up in the living room..suddenly he starting saying 'Daddy, daddy, daddy'..and seemed excited...