I feel like moving 3oooo miles away. Or, someplace where i think he never was ever at,i went to a new store that he has never been to and it felt more empty.Takes time to learn how to cope with this "new" me.What ever that is..Never in my life did i ever see me without him..this is a painful life But have to see positive things as well,it is what gets me though the bad thoughts...i feel like i have more then me with me All the time am not sure if thats good or not but am going to try and see it as that. Being positive. (Hugs )

Well, I would be moving about 3,000 miles away. Maybe back to tornado alley - OKC. I am trying to be positive, but I have been fighting depression. My deal right now is that my cash flow is dwindling, and I don't want to dip into my savings. Even if I borrow from it, will I be able to pay myself back? Thinking about selling my Buick pretty soon, maybe after the holidays. The cost of housing is a lot cheaper in the Midwest, compared to here. Hugs back to you. It will be expensive to move, I know.

I am so sorry. I know it's beyond difficult. How many times did I think, It wasn't supposed to end like this. And yet, here we are. Every one of us. Do the best you can. If it's too much right now, stay put for a season if you just can't bring yourself to do the move as planned. We get to be pretty flexible in our grief. Do double check your motivation for moving in the first place. Be certain you aren't trying to run away from the reminders. Grief follows no matter what. Just take care of yourself. Do what you can, when you can. But in all of it, never ever beat yourself up for wanting to have done so much more. Hang in there until tomorrow, and all the tomorrows after that. And one day, your eye will catch a glimpse of something in one of your tomorrows, and you will come to an awareness that your new life is all around you and you didn't even realize it until that very moment. It just kind of sneeeks up on ya whens you' a not a lookin' ~~~ Scottie

It would be simpler for the kids and grand kids to move here, but that is a pipe dream. I also have one son getting out of prison next year. He married his childhood sweetheart last year by proxy, but yet they fight all the time, not being together. Also the fact that I want to meet someone else eventually, and the ones who knew my late husband do not accept that very well. And cheap rent also appeals to me. Maybe I will just visit first and see if I really want to go back for good. You don't just take these treks every day...

Moving was hard for me. I had to move back to my home in Los Angeles. I have more family and friend support here. The reminders of my husband are everywhere. The girls are big and tall just like their father. Looking at them is like looking at him. Right now I am just lost without him. I pray God will give us widows direction and clarity.
Elizabeth