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This Board Is Created So That Those Of Us Who Have Been Abused Sexually, Mentally, Financially, Emotionally, Physically Can Rid Ourselves Of The Label "Victim". Even Though We May Have Been Victimized, We Are NOT Victims: WE ARE VICTORIOUS". The Simple Fact That After All You have Endured You Found Your Way To This Page Means Your Are A SURVIOR". Now Let's Not Stop...
i feel like it's worthy of it's own thread. brooke castillo is my weight loss coach and she is amazing!!! there are many podcasts you can listen to for free but i wanted to post this one b/c i feel like it's so important that we get this....
here is the link to brooke's life coaching school and the top podcast is what i'm suggesting we all listen to again and again. it's only 25 minutes and i' going to listen to it again right now...
http://thelifecoachschool.com/categ...
here are the notes i took directly from the podcast...
our pasts no longer exist except in our minds. going over the past again and again doesn't serve us in my opinion. the only way our past exists is in my thoughts about my past NOW!
so what my past is now is my story about my past. does the distinction make sense??
when i ask you about your past you will tell me your memorized story.. whereas if i asked your mom about your childhood she would have a different story.
our stories are what we made it mean...our past is over. the only thing we have is our current thoughts about our past.
regarding old pain.... we have a feeling we experience in this moment. we cannot feel a feeling we felt at age 3. we are not experiencing pain from our past. we are experiencing a thought. it is new pain that we are feeling with our current thinking. what happened in our past is over. the only pain from the past is the pain we are experiencing now is what we are creating with our thoughts nOW!!..
if we feel shame now it's not about the past. it's about what i'm thinking about my past now... we continue to abuse ourselves long after the past is over. we perpetuate the abuse. our minds torture us. this is not blaming the victim. this is great news bc we can change how we think about our past and how we feel about it then.
the only way it defines us now is in the way we choose to think about it.
if i ask you to make a case for you having a wonderful life you can. if i asked you to tell me about your horrible life you can make that case too. the story we tell about our pasts will depend on the story we focus on.
we create the life we believe we've had. what we focus on. being a victim perpetuates into adulthood not because they have been victimized but b/c that's the story they are focusing on.
everything is relative. everything is meant to happen exactly as it's supposed to have in order to live a most important life there is freedom. we chose our parents. the perfect set up to challenge me so i could survive. i couldn't have picked better parents to have taught me what i needed to know to be the person i am today.
everyone is doing the best they can. if i had a perfect life maybe i wouldn't have turned out the way i am today.
you get to take from your past what you want and you get to leave the rest... daniel sullivan. we have 100% control over this... we get to decide what we make it mean. we get to decide if if was part of our destiny or if something went terribly wrong. the only pain we feel right now is pain we create in our minds right now.
it sets us free. we could regret and beat myself for. it was alwasys going to happen that way. it was always part of the plan. i think of my past in terms of destiny but i don't think of my future in destiny terms.
when we argue with our past we lose but only 100% of the time. byron katie.
make peace with what has happened immediately after. don't argue with it.or you will lose 100% of the time. how do you want to feel about you past? how do you want to use your past to make you feel stronger and better today?? USE it. my past is mine in my mind. i get to decide what i make my past mean in my life. we get to decide if we're going to be a hero or a victim.
most people chained to a painful past are taking the option. they are choosing the story.
write a story that has made me strong and capable what has made me worthy?? then retell the story of my past that serves me better. and leave the rest of it behind. my future is my property. the past is OVER it has NO POWER over me. if i'm suffering over anything in my past it's because of the story i am telling myself. change the story.
here is the link to brooke's life coaching school and the top podcast is what i'm suggesting we all listen to again and again. it's only 25 minutes and i' going to listen to it again right now...
http://thelifecoachschool.com/categ...
here are the notes i took directly from the podcast...
our pasts no longer exist except in our minds. going over the past again and again doesn't serve us in my opinion. the only way our past exists is in my thoughts about my past NOW!
so what my past is now is my story about my past. does the distinction make sense??
when i ask you about your past you will tell me your memorized story.. whereas if i asked your mom about your childhood she would have a different story.
our stories are what we made it mean...our past is over. the only thing we have is our current thoughts about our past.
regarding old pain.... we have a feeling we experience in this moment. we cannot feel a feeling we felt at age 3. we are not experiencing pain from our past. we are experiencing a thought. it is new pain that we are feeling with our current thinking. what happened in our past is over. the only pain from the past is the pain we are experiencing now is what we are creating with our thoughts nOW!!..
if we feel shame now it's not about the past. it's about what i'm thinking about my past now... we continue to abuse ourselves long after the past is over. we perpetuate the abuse. our minds torture us. this is not blaming the victim. this is great news bc we can change how we think about our past and how we feel about it then.
the only way it defines us now is in the way we choose to think about it.
if i ask you to make a case for you having a wonderful life you can. if i asked you to tell me about your horrible life you can make that case too. the story we tell about our pasts will depend on the story we focus on.
we create the life we believe we've had. what we focus on. being a victim perpetuates into adulthood not because they have been victimized but b/c that's the story they are focusing on.
everything is relative. everything is meant to happen exactly as it's supposed to have in order to live a most important life there is freedom. we chose our parents. the perfect set up to challenge me so i could survive. i couldn't have picked better parents to have taught me what i needed to know to be the person i am today.
everyone is doing the best they can. if i had a perfect life maybe i wouldn't have turned out the way i am today.
you get to take from your past what you want and you get to leave the rest... daniel sullivan. we have 100% control over this... we get to decide what we make it mean. we get to decide if if was part of our destiny or if something went terribly wrong. the only pain we feel right now is pain we create in our minds right now.
it sets us free. we could regret and beat myself for. it was alwasys going to happen that way. it was always part of the plan. i think of my past in terms of destiny but i don't think of my future in destiny terms.
when we argue with our past we lose but only 100% of the time. byron katie.
make peace with what has happened immediately after. don't argue with it.or you will lose 100% of the time. how do you want to feel about you past? how do you want to use your past to make you feel stronger and better today?? USE it. my past is mine in my mind. i get to decide what i make my past mean in my life. we get to decide if we're going to be a hero or a victim.
most people chained to a painful past are taking the option. they are choosing the story.
write a story that has made me strong and capable what has made me worthy?? then retell the story of my past that serves me better. and leave the rest of it behind. my future is my property. the past is OVER it has NO POWER over me. if i'm suffering over anything in my past it's because of the story i am telling myself. change the story.
IMWHOLEAGAIN
Wow. Thanks for always sharing
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