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why do I keep getting betrayed?
I discovered the pattern:
1)I start feeling good/confident for a few months then it goes down and I start feeling vulnerable
2)I ignore the red flags(and my gut instinct) that people give off and become in denial
3)I'm left hurt & confused while the other person does not care at all
I was really good friends with these two girls for about 5 years but I was closer to one than the other(the both of them are the best of friends so I was always a third wheel). Over the years they would team up on me and say rude/insensitive things to me then make it seem okay by laughing it off. I usually would shrug it off or act like I didn't hear any of the remarks. I'm very humorous & vivacious but sensitive as well so it really hurt me but I tried my best to just push those memories back. They were there for me all the way whenever my ex hurt/discarded me so I thought maybe I was just being paranoid and I just ignored the red flags...
For this thread I'll call them C & D
One night About a week ago I went over to C's house (the one I'm closest to).Their boyfriends were there and and the brother of D's boyfriend who is deaf & cant speak(I was so attracted to him immediately and I got so nervous). They told me that he thought I was cute and he wanted me to go lay down next to him. They tried to persuade me to lay with him . Instantly i refused because i didn't know him but they kept pressuring so i gave in and laid down with him and we finished watching the movie. About thirty minutes later after so much pressure from my friends I gave in to temptation and ended up dry humping with him and making out. There was no penetration at all but it was so intense. The main reason I did it was because I didn't want my ex to be the last guy that I kissed and was physically intimate with. I felt bad when it was over and I was kinda distant with him after that for the rest of the night because of my guilty conscience. he wanted a good night kiss but i didn't give him one..throughout the night my friends kept calling him my man and stuff like that so I thought he had a crush on me and he would glance at me shyly. The fact that he's a super athlete ,wanted by many girls, and good looking made me feel kind of special. My friends gave me the impression that he was really into me and I felt it the whole night.
The next day we all hung out again at the park. I was so infatuated about him and had butterflies and extremely high vulnerability. I kept thinking about him. It happened so fast mainly because I feared that he used me and i didn't want him to think I that I was promiscuous. I got emotionally attached to him which was strange for me because i hadn't felt that way in a while. My friends thought i was crazy & overreacting. They told me not to get attached and that i shouldn't even be getting butterflies because i don't know him. C even thought that it was a bad idea to give him a hug when he arrived because it would be awkward because i didn't know him. When he finally did come he gave me a hug but later on he would not sit next to me or make eye contact the whole time there. I felt rejected because he didn't want to come back to C's house with me and the others. They told me to kiss him or grind on him to make him stay but i didn't want to so we hugged instead and i asked him to stay but he didn't want to
Two days later He came over and with the help of C,D & her boyfriend I communicated with him by writing and body language. I sat on his lap and he seemed into me again.We got intimate again (no penetration) but this time it was longer and way more intense.I was afraid to because i didn't want him to assume that i was a slut but C & D communicated with him and he said that he's not that type of guy and they agreed. They said he would still be cool with me and talk to me. In the end he said he was satisfied & it seemed to be true.but The rest of the night he paid me very little attention & seemed uninterested with me.
The next morning I started showing him more of my true personality & tried to connect and started being my normal flamboyant and playful self.I tried to use sign language and get him to open up. and i kept writing him questions and just being flirty and playful.He seemed fine with it.all he did was smile look down when i would ask him questions. i had to depend on the others (especially his brother) to communicate with him.When we were on the bus i played with him more but he was acting kind of strange and stubborn. Whenever i would ask him if he was mad he would just smile. Him and his brother talked about me in sign language(they were laughing and everything) but his brother wouldn't tell me what they were saying. the rest of the day he paid little attention to me.
The next day i discovered that he deleted me from facebook and i got scared and upset because i thought
he was playing me. Everyone saw how upset i was but they weren't very sympathetic. They just said learn from this experience and that i was being too clingy ( when in fact i was really being playful with him and trying to get to know him)He took it the wrong way. I argued that deleting a girl from fb just because you think she is clingy is so mean. They said maybe it was an accident because he isn't that type of guy and that its just fb and its not like he deleted me from his life. I impatiently waited two days and inboxed him but he acted very cold towards me and said that we're are just friends. He said that he wasn't feeling me because im real clingy. I called C & D and i had an emotional breakdown because he was cruel to me. They said that's not like him and D called straightened it out.She said that he was acting like that because he thought i wanted to be his girlfriend but I didn't, i just wanted to be friends with him and have fun for the summer but nothing serious at all and she told him that. Eventually she said that he wanted to be friends and that we could talk but not on facebook . She also said that i had to take it real slow with him and play it cool. I was relieved...
however the next day was horrible.He sent me some weird flirty messages. i apologized to C for having such a messy emotional breakdown.she said it was ok but she acted strange all day. I felt anxious because i thought i was the problem and she wasn't really answering my calls. Last night i wanted to come over and spend time but i gt the feeling that she didn't want me over. she said she wasn't upset at me but i sensed something weird. When i asked C why he was acting weird she said she doesn't know. He was over he house so she asked him and he said he didn't know anything about it. Her brother got onto his facebook when he didn't log out and sent those messages. He told her that he didn't want to be my friend and that he is done with me. she said that he started talking to some other girl. she said i need to learn from this experience so nonchalantly like what he did was perfectly fine. The both of them said they weren't mad because its not like we dated and i shouldn't have been so attached.
I realized they all played me like a fool and i fell for it.The whole time he did not like me and found me annoying but he did not show me through his body language or tell me. instead he just sat there and smiled and talked bad about me to them but they never told me. they told me to do the opposite of whatever he said so i couldn't have known. i thought i was connecting with him and getting to know him the whole time. they were all talking bad about me and C & D were amused by it and didn't even care. this guy even humiliated me by saying some awful stuff but they were amused by it and agreed.I was never mean to this guy . They said it was nothing they could do about it. they didn't even stand up for me. they betrayed me. I felt like nothing and like my reputation would be ruined.I got extremely angry and yelled at them for being so careless.It felt like i was in a nightmare. they talked crap to me over text and i expressed my feelings to them that they are fake and never was my true friends. they acted like they didn't care ,like they never wanted to be my friend all these years.we are no longer friends and i don't want them in my life
What hurts me the most is that they know all that i've been through but they had no sympathy. I got so tangled up in trying to fit in with them when i knew that I had no business hanging around them like we used to. they knew i was trying to change but they didn't want me to progress and do good. I have learned so much from this and i know they have something coming their way. Watch out for those wolves in sheep's clothing
I discovered the pattern:
1)I start feeling good/confident for a few months then it goes down and I start feeling vulnerable
2)I ignore the red flags(and my gut instinct) that people give off and become in denial
3)I'm left hurt & confused while the other person does not care at all
I was really good friends with these two girls for about 5 years but I was closer to one than the other(the both of them are the best of friends so I was always a third wheel). Over the years they would team up on me and say rude/insensitive things to me then make it seem okay by laughing it off. I usually would shrug it off or act like I didn't hear any of the remarks. I'm very humorous & vivacious but sensitive as well so it really hurt me but I tried my best to just push those memories back. They were there for me all the way whenever my ex hurt/discarded me so I thought maybe I was just being paranoid and I just ignored the red flags...
For this thread I'll call them C & D
One night About a week ago I went over to C's house (the one I'm closest to).Their boyfriends were there and and the brother of D's boyfriend who is deaf & cant speak(I was so attracted to him immediately and I got so nervous). They told me that he thought I was cute and he wanted me to go lay down next to him. They tried to persuade me to lay with him . Instantly i refused because i didn't know him but they kept pressuring so i gave in and laid down with him and we finished watching the movie. About thirty minutes later after so much pressure from my friends I gave in to temptation and ended up dry humping with him and making out. There was no penetration at all but it was so intense. The main reason I did it was because I didn't want my ex to be the last guy that I kissed and was physically intimate with. I felt bad when it was over and I was kinda distant with him after that for the rest of the night because of my guilty conscience. he wanted a good night kiss but i didn't give him one..throughout the night my friends kept calling him my man and stuff like that so I thought he had a crush on me and he would glance at me shyly. The fact that he's a super athlete ,wanted by many girls, and good looking made me feel kind of special. My friends gave me the impression that he was really into me and I felt it the whole night.
The next day we all hung out again at the park. I was so infatuated about him and had butterflies and extremely high vulnerability. I kept thinking about him. It happened so fast mainly because I feared that he used me and i didn't want him to think I that I was promiscuous. I got emotionally attached to him which was strange for me because i hadn't felt that way in a while. My friends thought i was crazy & overreacting. They told me not to get attached and that i shouldn't even be getting butterflies because i don't know him. C even thought that it was a bad idea to give him a hug when he arrived because it would be awkward because i didn't know him. When he finally did come he gave me a hug but later on he would not sit next to me or make eye contact the whole time there. I felt rejected because he didn't want to come back to C's house with me and the others. They told me to kiss him or grind on him to make him stay but i didn't want to so we hugged instead and i asked him to stay but he didn't want to
Two days later He came over and with the help of C,D & her boyfriend I communicated with him by writing and body language. I sat on his lap and he seemed into me again.We got intimate again (no penetration) but this time it was longer and way more intense.I was afraid to because i didn't want him to assume that i was a slut but C & D communicated with him and he said that he's not that type of guy and they agreed. They said he would still be cool with me and talk to me. In the end he said he was satisfied & it seemed to be true.but The rest of the night he paid me very little attention & seemed uninterested with me.
The next morning I started showing him more of my true personality & tried to connect and started being my normal flamboyant and playful self.I tried to use sign language and get him to open up. and i kept writing him questions and just being flirty and playful.He seemed fine with it.all he did was smile look down when i would ask him questions. i had to depend on the others (especially his brother) to communicate with him.When we were on the bus i played with him more but he was acting kind of strange and stubborn. Whenever i would ask him if he was mad he would just smile. Him and his brother talked about me in sign language(they were laughing and everything) but his brother wouldn't tell me what they were saying. the rest of the day he paid little attention to me.
The next day i discovered that he deleted me from facebook and i got scared and upset because i thought
he was playing me. Everyone saw how upset i was but they weren't very sympathetic. They just said learn from this experience and that i was being too clingy ( when in fact i was really being playful with him and trying to get to know him)He took it the wrong way. I argued that deleting a girl from fb just because you think she is clingy is so mean. They said maybe it was an accident because he isn't that type of guy and that its just fb and its not like he deleted me from his life. I impatiently waited two days and inboxed him but he acted very cold towards me and said that we're are just friends. He said that he wasn't feeling me because im real clingy. I called C & D and i had an emotional breakdown because he was cruel to me. They said that's not like him and D called straightened it out.She said that he was acting like that because he thought i wanted to be his girlfriend but I didn't, i just wanted to be friends with him and have fun for the summer but nothing serious at all and she told him that. Eventually she said that he wanted to be friends and that we could talk but not on facebook . She also said that i had to take it real slow with him and play it cool. I was relieved...
however the next day was horrible.He sent me some weird flirty messages. i apologized to C for having such a messy emotional breakdown.she said it was ok but she acted strange all day. I felt anxious because i thought i was the problem and she wasn't really answering my calls. Last night i wanted to come over and spend time but i gt the feeling that she didn't want me over. she said she wasn't upset at me but i sensed something weird. When i asked C why he was acting weird she said she doesn't know. He was over he house so she asked him and he said he didn't know anything about it. Her brother got onto his facebook when he didn't log out and sent those messages. He told her that he didn't want to be my friend and that he is done with me. she said that he started talking to some other girl. she said i need to learn from this experience so nonchalantly like what he did was perfectly fine. The both of them said they weren't mad because its not like we dated and i shouldn't have been so attached.
I realized they all played me like a fool and i fell for it.The whole time he did not like me and found me annoying but he did not show me through his body language or tell me. instead he just sat there and smiled and talked bad about me to them but they never told me. they told me to do the opposite of whatever he said so i couldn't have known. i thought i was connecting with him and getting to know him the whole time. they were all talking bad about me and C & D were amused by it and didn't even care. this guy even humiliated me by saying some awful stuff but they were amused by it and agreed.I was never mean to this guy . They said it was nothing they could do about it. they didn't even stand up for me. they betrayed me. I felt like nothing and like my reputation would be ruined.I got extremely angry and yelled at them for being so careless.It felt like i was in a nightmare. they talked crap to me over text and i expressed my feelings to them that they are fake and never was my true friends. they acted like they didn't care ,like they never wanted to be my friend all these years.we are no longer friends and i don't want them in my life
What hurts me the most is that they know all that i've been through but they had no sympathy. I got so tangled up in trying to fit in with them when i knew that I had no business hanging around them like we used to. they knew i was trying to change but they didn't want me to progress and do good. I have learned so much from this and i know they have something coming their way. Watch out for those wolves in sheep's clothing
deleted_user
This was very immature, childish and cruel them doing this, they dont have any sense of being empathetic and caring, to me they sounds like real bitches both of them. And thats what they are, good friends or normal people do not treat someone like that or for play and be amused. They have serious problems, maybe low self esteem. People with self esteem do not do this. Not at all. Glad you are not friends with these losers anymore. Life is too precious to be around people like that. I know this has hurt you much. Try think of it like the truth it is, they are not mature, they are sick! very sick!
Aniijo
yes,very immature and sick. i should have listened to my instinct
Aniijo
"the key to avoiding a repeat scenario is to fill your life with that which is positive" very true.thank you :)
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