What happened?

Because of feeding him emotion. This is what he uses to manipulate you. Sociopaths use (fake) love and fear to manipulate and control.

This is why establishing no contact is so important. If you have to have contact for reasons of children or work. Never display any kind of emotion. See it as a business transaction only. You dictate the times and stick to it. Do not play his game - and then he cannot play you!!!

No, responding is feeding him emotion but WHY can't I control myself. At some point I have to take responsibility for controlling myself. I need to learn how to pretend he doesnt exist. Always, I end up feeling bad for my lack of self control.

We all do it, WithC. They manage to do or say something that triggers us.

I am triggered and expressing my anger to mine tonight. Asshole is accusing me of cheating on him again while I was with him. I was celibate for 10 years before meeting this lying, cheating sociopath. Oh yeah, I cheated on HIM. They know where our buttons are.

I think that's key - self control. We know they are lying and trying to make us look bad and we feel the need to defend ourselves. Thing is no matter what you say it will be twisted and used against you. We are not dealing with anyone who is rational. The best thing as hard as it is is indifference to have the attitude of think what you want you crazy mofo and anyone who believes you is just as nuts

I like that mizd.

I am having to do that now. He did it again but I'm not giving him satisfaction. Even my friends said ok once could be an accident but he's blatantly doing it intentionally now. Juvenile and pathetic. I laugh because he told me I didn't like he grew a set of balls - I have never seen evidence of that because he's so passive aggressive and a coward

See what not responding has done for you. You get to watch him ram his stupid head into a wall over and over. Lol!

It's just childish and dumb so you keep doing stuff on LinkedIn instead of like sending me an email like what you want from me that's the part I don't get. stop being a pussy and just do is say whatever you want to do or say it just it's annoying this point rather than upsetting and makes him look pathetic

"...makes him look pathetic"

He thinks you didn't see it yet so he keeps re-posting.

Pour yourself a glass of wine and put your feet up.

This is the one time I really wish I could see inside his mind. you know what the hell and his a rational mind he could be up to. So what he thinks it's just going to get a rise out of me and that's all he wants from that it just seems dumb.

There is nothing wrong with you, it is just that you are up against a master manipulator. NO ONE is immune to their shenanigans and this is what makes them so dangerous! I am forced to deal with one also and I'm going to try the "gray rock" approach from now on. Remain flat and become as boring as possible, let her get her jollies elsewhere!

And here we go - another one this morning. This is all you have to do on a Saturday? WOW things with the new girl must not be all that great if you've been thinking about me four times this week.