Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
Morning all. just thought I would check in.
Im doing better now. The constant crying has stopped , although it does catch me out sometimes at odd moments.
I have moved into a new place with my daughter and we both enrol at University today! yay! The journey begins.
As for HIM.
Well, last night my youngest daughter (15 lives with her Dad and visisted me at weekends) was trying to get her laptop to work better so was running some virus checkers etc. She looked at the browsing history. My EX had been looking up escort services and lesbian porn. I am flabbergasted. It doesnt give a date but says 6+ months ago, so this would make it Feb/March time this year. The interesting thing is that when I asked him about it he said it was two months ago ( and we were still together then) She has had the laptop at her Dads house for three months so thats a lie right there. So when I mentioned to him in a text about it he said he was searching on the sites to see if I was working as a prostitute. WTF! Charming. Im confused and angry about this. He never once said he was worried or feeling like that. Although I had started my own business and was busy I still kept in touch with him all day.
So there we are, at the beginning of the year I had just started my business and he was pretty much at my office every day and he knew exactly where I was and when. I remember he took a photo of my diary on my desk once.
So the realisation that this is one sick unhealthy person is slowly filtering down. I am shocked. I was a good wife, even if I was unhappy. He never once suggested we talk or try and work on things. He has also hinted that if he doesnt agree with the comments on the divorce paperwork he wont accept it. sigh. I tried to put things which he couldnt argue with but I guess he will anyway. Silly me, I should have played that differently! I should have let him think he was controlling it - durh!
Anyway all okay here, I feel like Im coming out of the fog. Its a funny feeling, like a zombie becoming human again. Still a long way to go though but I can see I will be okay now, and that I, as a person, am okay.
As for the escort stuff, he never believed you were prostituting. He's projecting his bad behavior and trying to make it about you again. He's a sick pervert.
Keep up the good work!
I am really trying not to fall out with him, my instinct is that I want to reject him and say a few things but I feel I have to keep him sweet as he is paying me maintenance for a year…. his idea not mine. I wanted a lump sum. But I can see how it plays into his hands.
Todays another day….x