Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
I so badly want to contact him. I know I keep saying his but seeing as his limited explanation was lack of accountability for anything and turning everything around on me, he deserves to know what a piece of crap he is.
I did drive by his house today. I wanted to see if he left to go be with his wife, but it doesn't look like it. I still want to reach out to her as well, but I am finding the courage not to.
I found out more crap about him too that he kept from me or lied since the beginning. Like his real legal name for example. He lied to me about his middle name. The only way I found out was from the marriage certificate docs in a completely different state.
I just remember not even a week after he came back from his wedding and honeymoon that I knew nothing about, we had sex the day he got back, a week later I lent him money, and he left me card on my bed that stated how much he loves me and that he "believes in me, and in us". What a crock. I want to send him all his cards and stuff he bought me back. But I want to keep the power tools! If I gave them back, I would just buy the same ones again. But the watches, jewelry box, etc are all not gifts of love as I once thought. They are gifts and reminders of deception. The power tools I am just going to tell myself that they are repayment from the thousands of dollars I lent him over the years.
He made a statement that he was dissolving the marriage whether I was in his life or not. I can't help but think if I never found out, I would have never known any of this and wonder if we would end up together. Part of me still wants this. I can't just fall out of love with him, even tho I know who and what he is. That love I had was real, he was not and its just so hard to remember sometimes. Some days are better than others and some days I have a near anxiety attack. I still can't get over that he didn't apologize, try to earn my trust again. That's the one difference. He just washed his hands of me, like I was nothing. I know I'm not nothing, and am worthy and deserving of so much more, but to be treated as such is still heartbreaking.
I want him to know what he has done to me. I want him to feel the pain that he has caused me. I just want him to FEEL something!
I did drive by his house today. I wanted to see if he left to go be with his wife, but it doesn't look like it. I still want to reach out to her as well, but I am finding the courage not to.
I found out more crap about him too that he kept from me or lied since the beginning. Like his real legal name for example. He lied to me about his middle name. The only way I found out was from the marriage certificate docs in a completely different state.
I just remember not even a week after he came back from his wedding and honeymoon that I knew nothing about, we had sex the day he got back, a week later I lent him money, and he left me card on my bed that stated how much he loves me and that he "believes in me, and in us". What a crock. I want to send him all his cards and stuff he bought me back. But I want to keep the power tools! If I gave them back, I would just buy the same ones again. But the watches, jewelry box, etc are all not gifts of love as I once thought. They are gifts and reminders of deception. The power tools I am just going to tell myself that they are repayment from the thousands of dollars I lent him over the years.
He made a statement that he was dissolving the marriage whether I was in his life or not. I can't help but think if I never found out, I would have never known any of this and wonder if we would end up together. Part of me still wants this. I can't just fall out of love with him, even tho I know who and what he is. That love I had was real, he was not and its just so hard to remember sometimes. Some days are better than others and some days I have a near anxiety attack. I still can't get over that he didn't apologize, try to earn my trust again. That's the one difference. He just washed his hands of me, like I was nothing. I know I'm not nothing, and am worthy and deserving of so much more, but to be treated as such is still heartbreaking.
I want him to know what he has done to me. I want him to feel the pain that he has caused me. I just want him to FEEL something!
lovechild2011
Yes. Exactly where you are Lack. I struggle everyday. Lately it's been worse. I'm not even functioning well in life. I want to reach out the gf who originally reached out to me and see what's happening with them. My mind is going nuts. Hugs.
avram1965
It's totally natural to want to get revenge. But no contact and time are the best and maybe the only things that work to heal the wounds.
sparkstrong
He/she won't care. He told everyone I was nuts, and they believed it, except for my neighbors, family, and a few select friends. His "followers" will always believe it, and when you try to tell someone, he'll act beyond belief, then hit you with a "degradation of character" suit. We need to start writing to judges, lawyers, and politicians. We're just another group like those who are bullied or raped, never to get justice if we don't become our own advocates.
lovechild2011
Yep same here. When I told with wife her response was, he says you've been stalking me! What?! I never did any such thing. When the gf contacted me for answers, she told me he had already warned her that I was psycho, brilliant, a master mind screwer, and on and on. The victims that tell end up usually looking crazy just like the SP wanted.
AgentSmith
I understand that need for justice. I've done it. It feels great. They do deserve a taste of their own medicine. It's not always possible, but when it is, I take the opportunity now to give it to them. Usually that is in regards to exposing them. They work so hard to compartmentalize they're life so that nobody ever knows the whole truth. I make sure to let everyone know the whole truth. With the last one, I put together a packet of info, all his dating site profiles showing his mountains of lies about how he's so worldly traveled, and has all these degrees from prestigious universities, etc, his long list of criminal/felony records printed out from the court docket, his long list of lawsuits suing him for payday loans he never intended to repay, and the BMW he never made a single payment on, his last marriage that he tried to hide (who also found him out and quickly annulled it) and which he liked to keep secret, etc. I printed out all these legal docs and more, along with a well written letter detailing what a fraud he was and what he had done to people, and sent it out to everyone he knew, including his employer (whom he was working for under fraudulent certifications). Problem solved. Also let the local police, FBI, Sheriffs, and state police know about all his criminal activity. Yeah, he's probably not doing so well anymore...
avram1965
That's excellent. I paid for one of those background check site to get the real information on my P. It led me to court records and all kinds of information that showed she was the opposite of who she portrayed herself to be. When she contacted me, I was ready with the information. When she could tell that I wasn't going to stop confronting her, she backed, and I haven't heard from her since. Over a year!
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