Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
DenverDana
All, I write this post today to let you know of the depths of trouble these alien hosts (psychopaths) can cause in a victim's life. After the hook-line-and sinker of the psych was deeply rooted in me, he started talking about marriage. He was still rotating multiple women behind my back, but sometimes I would catch him texting one of them, or he wouldn't answer his phone (because he was having sex with someone else). He started talking about marriage to keep me in the picture, but it was nothing more than another lie. I changed my phone number to break communication, and 4 days later he sent me an email asking me to call him. I blocked my number and called him (Mistake). He said he didn't love the other women, we were going to "do it this time" (get married), to start moving my stuff in with him, it was different this time, he was thinking more clearly than ever, just give him this one last chance. So I did, I gave him another chance. I had moved alot of things into his apartment. 4 days later as we woke up that morning, he was texting with his most recent sex hookup. He asked me to leave and so I started putting things in grocery bags. As we were standing in the kitchen he was holding a grocery bag for me to put some of my things into, with a look of happiness and peace that made me wonder why in the world he could have so much peace with what he was doing? so I slapped his face. The next day he called the police and I got charged with domestic violence. You might not know this, but Colorado has the WORST laws in the nation for this offense. I was put in jail, and am now going through the court system with "intense supervision", a restraining order, monthly probation meetings for the next year, court every 3 months, and I have to take domestic violence classes once a week for God knows how many months. And I pay for all of it. This psychopath has broken me financially, emotionally, mentally, and every which was possible, as he continues to go on his merry way pillaging more women's lives. He just dumped another woman 2 weeks ago after scamming her for over $5,000 of cash and expensive trips to wherever he wanted to go. Last week he hooked up with a new woman and she has no idea the damage he's going to do to her. These are both women who are different than the woman he was texting when I moved in with him at the end of March this year. That's an average of one woman every 1-1/2 months that he's damaging. He has an insatiable appetite for sex, and targets those who have money and a home he can potentially move into (if he doesn't screw things up too quickly). He knows exactly how to "hook" them so they are almost immediately in love with him (called love-bombing on the Lovefraud website). This guy is a criminal in every sense of the word, but he manages to stay untouched by the law because police can't prosecute a man just because he dumped you and hurt you. I am sickened that these alien people exist, and equate it to a demonic possession of a human body. Be sure to check your state's domestic violence laws so you aren't caught up in the court system by the predator who has pillaged your life, and then suffer even more hurt by the monster you are in an intimate relationship with.
I went thru the love bombing, and was in the midst of devalue which was very painful, and I know the discard was coming, but because of the incident I got him out before it came to that. He has tried to contact me several times, now all blocked, with the most loving words and missing me and the animals. A real mushy one was the day before arraignment, which I did not go to, but it was extended to September 4 now.
When you get free of this hell, I hope you will find a way to tell your story and help educate the public and legal systems about these "demonic possessions of human bodies," and how they operate.
As you know, the one in my life, beat me by slamming my body with oak chairs as I lay on the floor, chairs which he broke, while kicking my legs with his heavy boots. The huge bruises all over my body took 3 months to heal. Photos of these bruises and a 3-page description of the beating resulted in him getting an unsupervised diversion program with no reporting, NC for one year, with the charge being dropped at the end of the year. The filthy psychopath told his lawyer and therapist that he never touched me. However, I have a videotaped recording of him confessing to his therapist that he lied and he did beat me up. I can't imagine why anyone who had seen the photos (which I sent to this therapist at that time, and the court had in their possession) would ever entertain his ridiculous story of denial, anyway. The victim advocate admitted to me that, in all her years in her position, she had never seen photos of a woman that badly beaten up. And this dirtbag will have no record.
The discrepancy between what the legal system did to a woman who slapped a lying, cheating, abusing, psychopathic scumbag, and how they handled the potentially fatal beating of a woman by a psychopathic man, is sickening, and should be addressed.
I am so sorry for you, Dana. Huge, huge hugs to you.