Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
I read these to myself every day...
Moving on doesn't mean you forget about things. It just means you have to accept what happened and continue living.
Just because you miss someone, doesn't mean you need them back in your life. Missing is just a part of moving on.
Don't waste your time looking back on what you've lost. Move on... because life isn't meant to be traveled backwards.
In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did, and why you no longer need to feel it.
Once you decide to move on, DON'T LOOK BACK. You won't find your future in the rear view mirror.
It's hard to move on, but once you do, you'll realize it's the best decision you ever made!
Sometimes you just have to forget about that person you once loved.
Maybe the happy ending is just moving on.
Moving on doesn't mean you forget about things. It just means you have to accept what happened and continue living.
Just because you miss someone, doesn't mean you need them back in your life. Missing is just a part of moving on.
Don't waste your time looking back on what you've lost. Move on... because life isn't meant to be traveled backwards.
In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did, and why you no longer need to feel it.
Once you decide to move on, DON'T LOOK BACK. You won't find your future in the rear view mirror.
It's hard to move on, but once you do, you'll realize it's the best decision you ever made!
Sometimes you just have to forget about that person you once loved.
Maybe the happy ending is just moving on.
1) What happened to us, such as how we were manipulated, why we chose to ignore the red flags, which vulnerabilities in us our psychopath exploited, etc.
2) The mind of a psychopath, in the measure that it's possible for a normal human being. This understanding makes us eventually see a psychopath not as horrible, evil human being, but as a member of a subspecies of human beings, as Prof. Robert Hare would say. We then begin to realize that it's simply pointless to expect them to have acted, thought and felt like normal human beings while we were in a relationship with them.
My therapist agreed with that approach and thought that it had helped me a great deal to recover from much of the abuse I suffered. I don't know if this is advice I can give you too, but it is based on my own experience. I can't say that I'm able to move on with my life yet, but if I hand't made an effort to understand the above I would still be dwelling on much of what happened to me while being in a relationship with a psychopath.
Don't beat your self over it; I think that many of us (if not most) fell for either their looks or their sexuality -- or both (as in my case). It's part of their "arsenal".
what a deadly combo