Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
So after a couple year affair with the ex SP I had the baby
. He messed with my head so much during the pregnancy and after that I really felt crazy. He told me that he and his wife were going to take my child etc. Now this would never have happened as there was no reason. I'm a good parent and provider. In the midst of all this manipulation and lies I finally lost it and told his wife. I emailed her and simply said the facts regarding the baby - after all he said they were trying to take him. I called his bluff. She left him about a year later. About one year ago she emailed me and asked if the SP had ever stepped up for our child. At the time I was still involved with him a bit so I never responded. That was it. The answer of course was no.
So a few months ago when the other other woman contacted me I learned that he had been having an affair with her the whole time I was pregnant and after etc. That woman is now around his kids (not mine) etc. I'm sure the ex wife has no clue that she was an other woman as well. I'm tempted to finally respond to the ex wife. Tell her how sorry I am that I hurt her which I never wanted to do - just hurt and expose him. And tell her that the woman he has around the kids is also an other woman. The ex wife will make it miserable for the SP if she knows this. One, I want him to suffer. Two I never responded to the ex wife and do owe her an apology. Three the OW that contacted me used all the info I gave her and took the SP back so I'd like to make that a little "cozy" for her with the ex wife and kids. What do you think?
. He messed with my head so much during the pregnancy and after that I really felt crazy. He told me that he and his wife were going to take my child etc. Now this would never have happened as there was no reason. I'm a good parent and provider. In the midst of all this manipulation and lies I finally lost it and told his wife. I emailed her and simply said the facts regarding the baby - after all he said they were trying to take him. I called his bluff. She left him about a year later. About one year ago she emailed me and asked if the SP had ever stepped up for our child. At the time I was still involved with him a bit so I never responded. That was it. The answer of course was no.
So a few months ago when the other other woman contacted me I learned that he had been having an affair with her the whole time I was pregnant and after etc. That woman is now around his kids (not mine) etc. I'm sure the ex wife has no clue that she was an other woman as well. I'm tempted to finally respond to the ex wife. Tell her how sorry I am that I hurt her which I never wanted to do - just hurt and expose him. And tell her that the woman he has around the kids is also an other woman. The ex wife will make it miserable for the SP if she knows this. One, I want him to suffer. Two I never responded to the ex wife and do owe her an apology. Three the OW that contacted me used all the info I gave her and took the SP back so I'd like to make that a little "cozy" for her with the ex wife and kids. What do you think?
Dr. Phil uses the term baiters in his book called "Life Code". He says the world has changed and good people should know how to live in this new world. He put some bait and told you that not only he , but his wife are going to take your baby. She decided to leave him. She decided she doesn't want to play his game. I don''t think you owe her an apology and contact, but you owe one to yourself for putting through all this. Now there is another woman. Do you really want to participate in this? Can you win by being a part of this? He obviously knows how to get to you? You can not predict the ex wife's new reaction and it means more contact with him in a way, it means you agree to be a tool in his game. This whole thing sounds like manufactured drama to me.
The other woman made a miserable choice, but her brain is split probably, just like yours was, I can imagine, about this man- He is good/ evil. He loves me / He abuses me...
She took what you told her to the situation to him, in order to make a bridge between, some agreement between his two sides. His good and bad. He cannot help her with that which is something I am sure you know.
They present an illusion and while the victim is weak from their spell they use and abuse and leave and move on to the next target.
You cannot save her. People find out in their own time.