i have no one to go with me to places. and i dont know if theres disability advocates but there might be. i know it is not legal here in the usa to harrass or descriminate against someone for being disabled.

i can go out on my own but i walk slow like a senior citizen and i stop to take breaks from walking and i walk bent over, sometimes almost losing my balance but a cane wouldnt help i dont want to use one. and i have fibromyalgia pain and also trouble bending down. but otherwise i can get around fine. but more like a slow elderly person and not like a person my age.



so even without the eye contact they can see from how i walk and move and bent over that im helpless.

so they go out of their way to make my struggle worse for me and make my day worse.

they like to accuse me of all types of things, especially managers who accuse me of shoplifting alot of times and they go through my bag or yell at me and treat me like a criminal when i did nothing wrong. im not the type of person to shoplift but they cause me trouble because they think its funny because im disabled.


they like to anounce that ive shoplifted infront of customers in a store and people are staring and dont know if what they said is true. even tho i never stole anything in my life. theyre trying to embarrass me

its against my religion to steal.


theyve searched through my bags and i told them to check the security camera and they find each time that i never stole... and then i saw one time the employee who accused me to her manager laughing to herself she thought it was funny and she knew she was lying on purpose to her manager.

i dont know how to deal with these people but its very scary and makes me nervous if it keeps happening and it does. most of the time i go out it happens. and im very nervous about it . im too nervous thinking of going anywhere.

it replays in my mind and it gets to my self esteem like why do they hate me

its not only men who harrass and bully me. alot of the time its also female store employees and female managers who are laughing at me ,bullying me and accusing me of things.

i dont know what signal i send out. but i dont feel well and am struggling to go by my day and buy the things i need and i mind my own business and im polite and not assertive

im genetically related to psychopaths in my family but i dont know if it has to do with that. if they cal tell ive been victimized in my past

My nature is to always be nice too, but if I recognize someone is taking advantage of it I call them on it. If someone threw change at my feet in a store, I would head to a manager. If I wasn't satisfied there I would then go to the people higher in the company. There is simply no excuse for such actions.
In personal life events, I inform the person of my value and say I'm not going to stand for it. I've noticed people are often surprised and thrown off balance if they are confronted with their rudeness. I don't mean confronted in a mean way. You can always be yourself, but just let them be aware you will not be apart of such behavior.
My son's barber is a bully. I used to hate going to get a hair cut. (Before anyone says go somewhere else, there is no one else) The barber would often ask questions about events in my life both past and current. I have learned to turn the questions around on him. If he says what are you getting yourself into these days-I ask him what he is up to. That is a bad example of his questioning, but the only one in my head at the moment. Oh, I know, he may ask a question about my sister. He knows I don't communicate with my sister, but he does it to get a reaction out of me. So now I return the question with a question of how is your son progressing in college-without answering his question. He will then either answer or change the subject. He hates to answer questions.
Wow! I just realized I have been defending myself with what my husband does. He takes questions and turns them around. He is not as simple and direct as me, but I think I must have picked up that defense from him. I wonder if there is any data on victims of narcissists picking up the traits of their narcissist without realizing it.
It wasn't until recently that I realized who I had been married to for 18yrs. He hid himself well. Underneath he had something constantly churning that I would have to deal with or address. It wasn't until I decided to separate that he revealed some of himself to me. I was very surprised. His family that include narcissist likely were surprised. He had been veiling himself to the world as he charmed them out of what was needed and more with his innocent act. But I guess that is a different story.
Also when I go out in public, I walk with confidence. Sometimes it isn't confidence that comes from inside, but I pull it from somewhere.

This makes me so angry. Do you have anyone that could accompany you when you go out? I wish I could. The only thing i could suggest, other than threatening a harassment lawsuit...and it might sound hokey... would be to practice some psychic shielding every day and right before you go out. As an empath, this might not sound so "out there" to you, because you're already aware of the energy exchange between people. I use mental imaging to surround myself with white light and affirm that I will attract loving and caring people and experiences into my life. And it works. If this strays too far from your belief system, try it anyway, because, at the very least, it will bring your focus back to yourself and away from these simple minded morons, who are already taking more energy from you than they deserve.
Best of luck to you.

I agree, this treatment is so unacceptable! I believe also in the bullies versus the psychopaths, at the other side one needs to have some lack of empathy when they think its ok to even bully..one can start to wonder if the bullies are just bullies and not psychopaths and I believe some of them "are" psychpaths. Bullies usually have low self esteem and are insecure and bully because they feel they have to belong to the other bullies..anyway no matter what, healthy peopler DO NOT bully others!

I have seen a lot of these bullies myself, maybe not directed at myself but have seen their attitude...the attitude in managers and employees...some of them being cocky and arrogant looking, sometimes I have wondered if they just look like that or "are" like that...most probably they are like that because one can sense when people are nice and friendly.

I have worked with my self esteem a little, before I was insecure, maybe a little still, but I have learned to pull out my confidence, like the other poster said here, I may not put out my confidence on the inside, but I show it on the outside. I have learned that if people are rude or if they are bullying they have own issues and insecurities. Even I am insecure I have never bullied others. Its the empath in me and which most of us have here...that we are empaths.

I agree with the others to complain about the treatment you get, if you feel this is something you wish to go further with. I just dont understand people who bully except that they have issues that has nothing to do with us, its them who have own problems. Always remember healthy people do not bully.

I have also experiences those psychopaths who intrude your space, they do size out empaths and kind people and they think that they can intrude our space with entitlement, we can see their demeanor are cocky and superior. I can see who are like this on the street or int e store about right away, their whole attitude speaks.

As an empath, I tend to get very angry and protective when I see someone being abused in public, whether the abuse is aimed towards a child or a shop clerk...or anyone. If i witnessed someone doing the things you described, Turkeyprincess, i would go berserk. Just simply wont tolerate it and WILL put a stop to it. I've been known to very loudly, verbally eviscerate these malicious types and give them a public humiliation they will not soon forget. I once stopped a man from beating another man to death, putting myself in harms way in the process, without a second thought, because it had to be done. I'm getting all angry and shaky just thinking about it.

But as i get older and "wiser" i find that the psychic shielding is far more effective as a pre-emptive measure and instead of having a draining experience of anger and giving these sociopaths/psychopaths the reactions they crave and feed off...it diffuses them and they sort of just, i don't know, don't show up in my life. And if they still do, my head and energy is in a better place to deal with it. It's hard to explain.

Thanks for posting the zipping vid, dynamical. We need all the help we can get! I also highly recommend EFT tapping, which is based on the acupressure, the Chinese meridian system of energy. It has helped me immensely with panic attacks caused by living with a sociopath, when nothing else will calm me down. It's very easy to do and there are countless videos online that walk you through it. I understand that we all respond in different ways to different techniques, and have our favorites, but the trick is finding one that works best for you. I sometimes go along and don't practice these things when life is going smoother, then boy do I get a wakeup call and realize self care needs to be an every day habit.

Please always know in your mind and heart that there are people out there who DO care.

Boy, Turkeyprincess, people are treating you wrong! I know how tiring fibromyalgia can be, and maybe some respondents don't realize that you may not be up to doing some of what has been recommended. Going to the store can feel like climbing a mountain and you might not want to add any energy to the task beyond what is minimally required.

First, I think most people are not psychopaths, personality disordered, or bullies. I think the estimate for all personality disorders was 15% of the population. So, 85% chance the people you encounter are more or less normal. Sometimes, it only takes one and they'll rally the herd. Psychopaths and narcissists are attracted to management positions because they like to boss people around and be "one over" on them. So, if the manager is leading the way, the employees may follow even if they don't feel it is right. But in general, I would assume I am not dealing with someone without feelings. So, most people should help if you express a need for their help and for them to treat you more nicely. You might say you're having a really tired day, and looking forward to going home and putting your feet up, or some other thing that probably the people helping you are also thinking, and that will get them on your side. Or you might say you could really use their help and they could really make your day if they would help, or some thing like that that makes them feel good about helping. Most of the time, they probably just see the endless procession of customers as a drag or work, and it helps to make that personal connection.

If you really are dealing with a psychopath, I find the best thing is to be boring. I've also found that dropping eye contact invites them over to bother you, but if you can safely do so, giving them a good, strong but short stare sends them away. You no longer look easy or low risk. You want to look a little challenging, but not disrespectful. By boring, I mean, if you don't react in some entertaining way, then it will not be fun to tease you. They'll move on. Like if they throw your change on the floor, just keep on keeping on and leave it, and that's no fun for them. (I know, that whole thing is horrifying and really awful of them.) You can also ask the manager to come and pick up your change that their employee threw on the floor. With most normal people, that should stop that immediately. I would hope the manager is appalled!

You might also give some thought as to what you may be doing to start this up. For example, for me, at the worst points of getting away from my N/P and me not being in good health at the time, with PTSD too, I went to stores sometimes a bit disheveled and let's just say, the opposite of primped. I really just could not care enough to care. I noticed that when I looked bad, I was followed around and watched as if I would steal things. So, I learned not to go anywhere I did not have to unless I could make myself more presentable. If you wear a head scarf or some other thing that sets you apart, that might also start things off. But with some people, they just take advantage because they feel like it or they can, for no reason.

If anyone at a store does not treat you right, if you can and have the energy, ask for the manager. If the manager does not help you, ask for a complaint card or go to the store's website (like if it is a big chain). Often the big stores will not answer any comments, but sometimes they will. If you give them the store location, they might be able to do something, like retrain or get rid of the manager. In the meantime, you can go to a different store or come back at a different time when there is a different manager there.

So, I would escalate it and let them know I was escalating it. These days, people are tracked with customer service surveys which sometimes affects their bonus pay. So, they will have to care, even if their first reaction is not to. I bet you'll get better service. If not, go somewhere else to shop or shop online.

Also, you might ask other customers to help. I know I am often asked and am happy to do so if someone safe looking asks nicely, especially if they look like they have a need (medical, older, can't reach, etc.).

I really like dynamical's comments, which I did not know and found very interesting.

And especially if you live in a big city, I would get pepper spray or mace on your key chain or purse and make sure it is visible. You need to create an obvious deterrent. And try to shop when people are out, especially families, as that would be a lower risk time, and a time that people who are more likely to help are out.