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Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.

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Nutellina 03/11/2013

I'm not sure if in those two months and half I ever actually miss my ex. Yeah I felt alone, I felt used and abused, but I'm not sure if I actually missed him. I think it happened only in two moments for few minutes , hearing a sweet song. Yes I do think about him but I don't feel I actually miss him .
Maybe I became insensitive because all the pain ? Or maybe is that choosing NC make me feel strong toward him because I'M THE ONE that doesn't want him?
Because my others breaks up, I always missed the person, at least the first months. I'm kinda happy about it but also I see it's kinda innatural and maybe something in me changed? Or I became a person with no feeling to protect myself? Or it's the good result of NC?
Do you have any experience of this?

Nutellina 03/11/2013

Honesty after this experience I don't feel romanticism anymore. Something inside of me happened for sure, because I m always been the most romantic and dreamy person you may imagine.

positivagirl 03/11/2013

I think that this might be, because you realise that the man you were in love with, didn't even exist. Once you come out of the fog - and into reality. You realise that what you loved, was not real. It didn't exist. It existed only in your mind.

You are incredibly strong and have come so far so fast!! :)

Nutellina 03/11/2013

Positiva. It can be. Actually probably is the main reason. And on top of that maybe it helped the fact the previous relationship was bad too ( not like this one) and I got tired to be treated like that.

deleted_user 03/11/2013

Nutellina - There is so much haze involved in the craziness these people create because it goes against any of our comprehension. Try not to label yourself as anything. For RIGHT NOW you are insensitive because your are healing. WHo the hell woulnd't be?! That is normal. Dont believe the lies you tell yourself, dont worry about hoe you view romance right now. Focus on what the TRUTH's are. You are a loving person who caught fooled, not because of anything you did. I remember calling my mom one morning at like 5AM say. "I never stood a chance". Its like it finally hit me (and this was over a year ago) that I could have done NOTHING to change the outcome. Take yourself out of the circle of finding out the "why's" or "what if" or "now Im changed for the worse". None of it matters. Use this to realize how strong you are! How you were able to get out, many cant gain the strength to do that!

Bottom line is you have no contact for a VERY good reason! And that is the TRUTH.

Nutellina 03/11/2013

Emysty thanks to make me feel "normal". Yes all this gave me a choice.... Or I ruin my life or I choose to trust my strength and put together myself again! I don t want to be treated poorly by anyone! I m done with it.

deleted_user 03/11/2013

Im sorry for my grammar and spelling. Im a little stressed right now ;(

Nutellina 03/11/2013

No prob. I Hope you are ok!

deleted_user 03/11/2013

always! I will not be defeated, he cannot take my soul. its not his to take. Yes, I am saddened, but he will not take what I wont give to him. At some point, this will end. Perhaps not in my favor but I know I have acted in integrity and accepted what I cant control. So, even through pain, I can feel joy. Perhaps inappropriate, but F*ck him! We all can prevail and GROW from this. We are more than conquerors! :)

Nutellina 03/11/2013

Good you are saying this!!!
We need to become stronger people and not ever aloud anyone to treat us like that. Ever again!

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