I have read that P’s have proto Emotions, they don’t feel a full range of human emotions. Glee, and delight when they are getting what they want, but not true happiness. Infatuation and obsession over a victim, but not love. Fleeting frustration or anger, but not sadness or depression. This makes for a very boring life!

Here is a great article on P’s and bordom.

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/03/04/psychopaths-and-boredom/

I understand!!!
Why the are obsessed with their victims??? I remember mine didn't leave me alone, especially before to gt together!
REading the article!

Plus, they dont get a high off of the little things in life like we do. They get high off of causing duress to others. So when they arent causing that duress, they become bored.

These descriptions so fit with the victim's experience of them. Their behavior seems so incomprehensible to us. They are really not having the same human experience as us.

In fact I really don t get it at all!
I think it would make more sense to go to another victim and not to the old one since she already knew him!

I think they get a fixation on people in a similar way that they do on objects. In fact, we are objects to them.
Both of the psychopaths I have known, were hoarders and kept collections of garbage that no one else would find valuable. The recent one was attached to pieces of broken garden gnomes and shards of broken pottery. He actually decorated his yard with these things (until I moved in). I think they see us in a similar way that they see their junk. It's THEIR junk and they might want to get it out and play with it later. Since they have such shallow inner lives, they do not grow and change and move on from one emotional state to another. They just continually pick through the rubble of their emptiness looking for something to alleviate their boredom.

My psychopath ex would drink to relieve the boredom he felt, but the tension would build up over time because the relationship was restricting him from being what he really was, eventually he would lapse into meltdown mode and become verbally aggressive. His mask would slip and I would get a fleeting glimpse of the nutjob he really was. I started to recognise patterns in his behaviour, and the cycle of abuse continued to go round and round.

Kris, that is actually very interesting. You are probably right.
My ex keeps going back and forward with his ex…..since 10 years!!!!! I'm in the picture since two years and he was with her before, then he moved with me, then he went back to her, then he called me for three months every single day and we got together back again, and now I imagine he is with her again. She is 15 years older than him!


Many my P was drinking too! Same thing…..many to forget prison, or his ex or his boredness…..who knows????

It's also about effort. It takes time and effort to find a mate, groom them to put up with you, and make them love you. They know they've gotten it from you in the past so it's possible they could get it again. There's nothing they like more than having someone so broken that they can come back to them whenever it's convenient for them. If they don't keep pushing boundaries they'll never find that next perfect victim.

Everyone keep calling them evil ….I still can't see that in him…..I mean….in some moments yes, in others it's hard because he had kindness toward me...

you dont think cheating is an evil act?

From a facebook page today:

Emotional abusers condition their victims to feel ashamed, inadequate, and unstable. This is because they are cowards, incapable of healthy relationships with strong and self respecting individuals. Often times , they choose targets who are unusually successful and idealistic, because these people have more to lose. But the abuser cannot control; someone with such qualities, and so they break down the target's self-esteem through belittling, teasing, and manufactured jealousy. The target may have perfectionist tendencies, striving to meet the abuser's impossible standards. This results in a strange dynamic where the abuser is idealized, despite being lazy, dishonest, and unfaithful - meanwhile, the victim is devalued, despite putting more effort and into this relationship than ever before.

Nutellina - Does any of this ring true?

Bella…..yeah cheating is for sure an evil action as well as lying! In my face.

Withconscienc actually yes! Everything.
In fact when he was angry he was insulting me, make me feel that no one ever wanna be with me because I'm depress and negative (this when I was telling him that I think he was still drinking).
He was trying to make me feel lucky I was with him …..sometimes he was saying :" You are not at my level". Or he was saying he was a KING!

I wanted you to read that to see that perhaps your jealousy was manufactured by him. You said it was out of character for you and I am sure it was. But I am also pretty sure he covertly made you feel that way. He IS EVIL!

He basically asked you to bend over and ask for it. It doesn't get anymore malevolent that that.

exactly!!!