Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
Hi Everyone. It has been quite a while since I have posted. I joined a few years ago at the height of all the craziness in the midst of a relationship with a spath. It is a long drawn out story that never seems to end, but I hope and pray it will soon. I am disheartened by the way he monitors everything I do and constantly harasses and stalks me via the court. My phones have all had problems after our relationship ended. A Telco person even told me when he came out to my first home that someone had accessed a wire in the box that requires a special key to open. I have moved to two other different places since. My phone has had issues everywhere I have lived. Calls get dropped....on my landline. People on the other end tell me they can hear someone else on the phone and ask me if I hear it. I only have one receiver. I have had my trash stolen. That sounds so crazy I cannot even tell most people. I have people sit outside my home and just park while sitting in their cars, writing on paper sometimes. I have had someone drive by and take a picture of my home in the middle of the day. I really have to be careful who I tell as I am aware it makes me sound paranoid and crazy, but it is really happening. Some of my friends have gone by the wayside out of fear for their own family and children. I do not blame them. Anyone who has supported me has become a target. I had one friend tell me..."it never ends". She was almost breaking down over the whole scenario herself. She and I no longer communicate. People have asked me to rename them on my phone in case he ever gets a hold of it, because they do not want him to come after them if he hurts me and gets a hold of my phone. On top of everything else, he is a smooth talking perfectly polished every Sunday attending church goer. What is on the surface is so far from the Truth it is disturbing. Does anyone have any advice on how to stop the attacks from this kind of evil? I am worn out but committed to keeping my children safe and trying to teach them good values. However, it is very hard to be involved in anything as I feel like I am bringing an evil tagalong with me wherever I go. I pray that God allows others to see through this man's façade so I can move on and have a happy and safe life with my children.
When the p came to my country I thouht for more than ten years that she was the really really bad one. Everything was the total opposite. Well, at least she now know that others have been ino the same horrow. She lived with him in this village and forgave and forgave because that was the word of God. Horrifying!!!!
I wish I could solve this for you I really do.
This is the best method I've seen for dealing with these toxic people.
No one will get what you're going through except those of us who have
experienced our own P. Or those wonderful, yet sadly rare people who are
not naive but still have true empathy.
I have found it best to avoid the subject altogether with anyone except for
my therapist and people who have been there and are committed to the
healing process.
Also you probably already know this, but document, document document and
find someone who can help you legally that is aware of the tactics used
by the severely disordered. Forensic psychologists who are well versed in
parental alienation, family law attorneys who specialize only in family law
child psychologists that really get the danger of this man. It can seem like
looking for a needle in a haystack because it is. Most professionals don't
get it, and many have their own personality pathologies.
Some can enjoy fleecing people without offering any real help or just feeling
superior in comparison to another's tattered life. It's important not to give up
and keep looking Know what you're doing is nothing short of heroic. Your
situation is unbelievably difficult and you are persevering admirably even
though it's hell. Please hang in there and know you're not alone. Your conscious
will be sweet and light knowing what you have done and continue to do to
protect your kids.
Melanie Tonia Evans has some interesting articles on her website about how
our fear will draw the P towards us. Although I'm not a woo woo new ager, and
I'm wary of hypnosis, etc. I have found that using the grey rock method and forcing
myself to be indifferent to the outcome moment to moment (of course long term I'm
anything BUT indifferent) has had an excellent effect to lessen the morbid interest
of P and co. I always show indifference when I have to negoiate, and although it
took me a long while to be able do this (and I'm still trying to truly master this) it has
helped tremendously to mitigate the damage done by the P and co as well as the
attendant gossip mongers (aka vultures)
Hang in there--sending you the very best wishes