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Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.

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I know I should be happy....

Nutellina
Nutellina
I know I should be happy because he is out of my life. I hear so many stories here about P coming back to you and not leave you alone! I didn t hear from mine since three weeks and I should be happy I do not have to deal with such an evil! Truth is that I would like he would contact me to have the opportunity to ignore him. He is probably having so much fun now so he doesn't need me anymore. And honestly I have a feeling to be more save..... At least I do not feel stupid to be with someone that cheat on me, even if I never had proves!
Nutellina
Nutellina
:( Feeling bad!
axertis
axertis
Nutellina, I see you compare yourself to him and perhaps others, and I just wish I could help. Your life is yours, it's too important to lessen its meaning by comparing it to others. The truth is, they move on so fast because nothing means anything to them. It's all tactics, they want what they want at any cost and there's no time to waste. They don't suffer. They couldn't possibly experience damage in relationships, the damage was already done for them much earlier. Because they don't wound, they can't heal, so they can't grow. Roadblocks and painful experiences are your opportunity heal and grow. Before you get started healing, you're going to have to stop looking in his direction. I know it's so hard, but before any healing can start you are going to have to have a little faith; look inside, do something you enjoy, support others here... anything but focusing on him. You have a role... as victims, we aren't really all that innocent, we just didn't know that our behaviors likely strayed from healthy at the first sign of deceit. That is good news! Why? Because that means there are things that we can work on to improve our own lives from here on out. It means YOU are in control and you have the power to heal by taking these small difficult steps away from the insanity you are looking at. But you do have to take those difficult steps. Happiness isn't gauged by how fast you can move on. Happiness is so much more than that, though sometimes it takes work. Choose not to be his victim today =) That's a good start.
Nutellina
Nutellina
Yes I know you are right….I guess it's too soon for me…..
I can't see the light yet….
I just wish things were different and it would be him to suffer….not me!
axertis
axertis
Well, I can't say I have never shared those sentiments =)
WIthConscience
WIthConscience
Nutellina - the healing comes so gradual, but it does come. Feelings that you are having are normal. And please, do not forget, they CANNOT feel joy. You see him as happy and think of what that means to you, that is NOT what it means to him. They can search their entire lives and never find one day of joy that a normal person experiences, and THAT is why they hate us. That is why they project their crap onto us. One day at a time :) hugs
Nutellina
Nutellina
I really hope they can not feel joy. It's the right hell for them!