He is really talking about to have a baby after he left me alone with my pain after the abortion???

He has no conscience when he can say such thing..I am sorry you had to hear this Nutellina. But he proves more and more he is a very sick man. Very sick and totally unempathetic. Is he trying to provoke you into a reaction with this maybe, to make you respond..maybe this is what he does. Or he thinks like you are just gonna forgive him and start new, that a new baby should tempt you to contact him. No matter the reason he shows no compassion how he left you in such pain. He just shows he has no conscience.

Did he cause you lose your baby, Nutellina? was it his violence?

No no. I been attacked from a stranger. I don t remember much thought. My ex was very compassionate at first, but then he saw me crying , so he said we should just be friends. So I went trought the emotional pain to have lost a baby alone, then he contacted me after three weeks ..... When the hard part was gone. I never responded .

Omg! I had no idea, I thought it was your ex who caused your abortion, I am sorry I have misunderstood. Yes, indeed, still your ex was very cold leaving you in the midst of your pain, he doesnt deserve a new chance when he could do that to you! I am shocked to hear you got attacked by a stranger!! it must have been very traumatizing!

No he is not a monster like that.
It was a pretty bad experience

Ok its good he is not that kind of monster. I am sorry you experienced that though.

Ah.,.... so now he changes text again and is nice....and caring.... pretending to think about your welfare to confuse you :(

Saying about the baby, because he knows that it is something that you are upset about. He is gaslighting you again.

Ugh, they are all the same. Yes, clearly a baby will make everything better!

I will say this until the day I die; think about how bad you feel now and multiply it by infinity and that's the HELL you will endure by having children with these "people".

You are one of the lucky ones who got out before then, praise God!

I'm sorry for your loss. It's an extremely painful experience. Know that I share your pain. Actually several of us probably do. Many hugs to you!!!

Please try to find strength from within and remember to treat yourself kindly. Life will get better. Vent when you need to. There are ears that'll listen.

***I also agree with emysty. Be grateful. You are lucky. I am lucky, too.

Positiva, I guess he knows me very well and that talking about baby and family it will touch me. Whatever. I'll stay on my NC forever.....he can say anything.....even if I admit it effect me, but I don't consider myself that stupid to trust his words again.

Emysty and movingon....yes I guess I am lucky. Reading all your stories it made me realize that. A baby with a man like that it would be not very happy.

You're very smart, Nutellina!!! It's been seven months NC for me and I couldn't be more thankful. You will be, too. I have a strong feeling that we will ALL be much happier in the long run. Life will go on and when we're down or questioning things, we have this forum. So thankful to everyone here.

The “are you ok? “ message...

Nutellina, my exNS did the same thing the first time we split up after weeks of NC. Personally, I think they leave you, have a look around and realize that at that moment, there is no one else available and willing who will be able to offer the same amount of narcissistic supply as well as make them look good to the outside world (in order to maintain the façade of normalcy). I held off on my NC for days after receiving the text, until someone close to me (whom I looked to for advice) suggested I reply, simply so as not to be rude (I was not aware that my ex was sociopathic back then). So I did. Anyway, that was all he needed to reel me back in. One of the biggest regrets of my life was answering that text message. I should have stayed with NC.

He then proceeded to draw me back in, with the promises of things being 'different this time around'. He mentioned a family and babies, which is how I wound up pregnant. He promised to help me make all of my dreams come true. Trust me, its all a load of BS. It really is. When you needed him the most, he left you. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I can relate and only hope that you had supportive family members and friends around like I did to help you through that difficult time of losing your baby. You do not want to start a family with a man like that. As emysty has said, we are very lucky.

It sounds like you are going to stay strong with your NC. I’m so glad to hear this. I think the knowledge you have, knowing that he is incapable of change is playing a big part in your strength. However, if you do end up having a moment of weakness, please try and think of what I and the other posters have said above. Don’t make the same mistake I did.

Hugs to you!

Movinon you are right. Life goes on, and better without a person that ruin your life. Isn't?? Having this forum is being so helpful to me. Here I descover many things I didn't know.....plus I found my strenght with you guys help. I'm very thankful!!!


Loverfighter it was the second time worst compare the first time?
The fact to reply even one time only, with even with one word only, I feel like I'm going to ruin this silence that I built to protect myself and that for me it means "respect for myself". I feel like if I answer with an "ok" , all my work will be over.

Unfortunately my family is far. I had friends that disappered because of my situation.....only few were close to me....three.....it's being very hard. And now my heart is hard as well.