Walking and yoga help me. If you want to try yoga, I would recommend:

http://www.amazon.com/Richard-Hittlemans-Yoga-Exercise-Plan/dp/B009CRS47S

I have used it for 30 years. Literally anyone can do it. You just start where you are. Modify the movements if you can't do them completely. Your body will loosen up naturally over time.

Nothing, of course, beats sleep for rejuvenation. Inadequate sleep has been linked to weight gain. You may want to have your thyroid and adrenal glands tested.

I would also recommend long, hot baths, with some natural scents, maybe lavendar which is relaxing. Massage is wonderful if you can afford it.

I think keeping a journal is therapeutic. Over time, you can look back and see your progress. A dream journal is another nice thng. You keep a notebook by your bed and write down your dreams as soon as you wake and before you forget them. It is a way to access your subconscious which can be a source of guidance. It's also self-nurturing.

I feel so bad for what you are going through. It sounds overwhelming--fighting court battles, interviewing for jobs and being rejected, having many children to care for, dealing with health issues. You are a very strong woman to deal with all this. I will be thinking of you and holding you up in prayer (((sanctus))).

Thank you for your sage advice Kris. I appreciate it and will look into all that you suggested. I especially appreciate your prayers and hugs.

I understand what you mean. I believe my dad's a sociopath and when I used to live with him, I felt so drained and depressed and even suicidal because of it. I even started slitting my wrists at one point because it helped with the pain. But then I started listening to music and was able to release my pain that way. Just find a healthy way for you to vent your pain, whether it's writing or listening to a certain type of music or exercising or something else. Each person is different, but find something that works for you. Also, make sure you're getting a good night's sleep. Make sure you get a good 7-8 hrs of sleep each night, and when you go to bed, maybe read something that inspires you or makes you happy, or listen to some music that will relax you and help you feel good or vent your pain. Then once you're ready to go to sleep, just keep taking deep breaths evening out your breaths. Inhale slowly for about 5 seconds and then exhale slowly for about 5 seconds. just keep doing that and focus only on that, don't think about anything else just clear your mind so that way your mind can relax faster and you'll fall asleep faster and get a better night's sleep. I hope this helps. Let me know if you have anymore questions!

Have you had any blood work done with your doctor lately? Over the last couple of years my doctor discovered I had a deficiency in iron, D, and B-12. Some of those affect energy levels. With all of the drama in my life I forgot to look at possible physical reasons for my exhaustion and depression. I got a B-12 shot for the first time last week. For the rest of the evening I was dancing and acting totally silly. I was amazed how different I felt. My second shot didn't have the same affect, but the important thing is building back up to a normal level. Good luck with everything.

I'm not sure of what you're eating. For me I gained a bunch of weight as well. I'm not eating more, but I can tell you it's what I have been eating. I started eating nothing but comfort foods. Sweets, fried foods and carbs! No wonder I gained weight. I also noticed that whenever I eat sweets, I get very sluggish. Add all the stress with my ex, I had no energy as well. When I was really going through, I used to stay in the bed. If you are comforting yourself with food, I suggest you change your diet. Drink plenty of water, force yourself to exercise. It won't be easy, but only you can pull yourself out of this. Don't let him win! Take back your life! You can do it. I totally agree with Walking, you should see your doctor. My doctor checked my blood and found my cholesterol was very high. He told me to immediately go on a low fat diet. Please feel free to reach out if you need support. I also joined the weight loss support group. I plan to get very serious about my diet and exercise. Feel free to reach out anytime for support.

There are a lot of reasons for exhaustion after being involved with a P.

For one thing, they make you do more than normal for them and that is tiring.

Psychological stress can make your mind muddled and your body tired. Getting away from the stress can help clear your mind and restore your body. Find a way to relax you enjoy. I personally felt a lot of benefit from getting out in nature. And in finding an interest that carries no negative emotions or challenges with it, to retreat to when things get overwhelming.

If you have been in the relationship for a long time, you might have physically suffered damage. I echo the recommendation to get your adrenal and thyroid glands tested. Use a naturopath or DO or MD into alternative medicine. My experience with an endocrinologist was that they do not test for the more subtle dysfunctions that can happen with long-term stress, and then they scare you away from hormone treatments unless your situation is extreme. I found much help in an adrenal regimen, and thyroid can be treated once that is under way if needed.

At the extreme, and for some people on N and P victim/survivor boards, some of us were driven into Chronic Fatigue Syndrome or related illnesses such as Chronic Lyme's or Fibromyalgia. I believe vulnerability to this is related to extreme long-term stress and . Look these up for so many suggestions about what to do about exhaustion.

Lastly, I am not sure how long you have been out of the relationship. But some people get complex PTSD. This can make your emotions and fears triggered very easily and can lead to fatigue and insomnia from always circling thoughts and worries. It also can cause insomnia, which can add to fatigue. There are effective treatments for PTSD and it may subside on its own I have had it more than once and it has subsided after a year or two.

These are some things to look into and think about. Good luck!