Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
First off I have to say is I opened my profile the other day and have been trying to decide how to tell my story.
I know I need help.. I talk to friends and family but they just don't understand compeletly. Their looks of pity
hurts or blame like I should have seen what he was. It wasnt just me he fooled.. it was the ones who's opinions
mattered to me most.
When it was online and dating his attention was there. Texting all the time.. pictures.. dediecating songs. He told me
his life so openly. Troubled childhood.. mean military father.. who disowned him so his mom cant talk to him. I heard
all about his two little girls. The oldest he actually had custody of.. he showed me the child support card in his
name, but she got herself together and has her back. The youngest they just didnt work out. Then his time in the service
he got injured and discharged. He had a chunks of his thigh missing to go along with his story.. he was good.
After about a month he moved in after his living arrangment fell apart. I lived with my mother who permenantly disabled
and my 14 year old daughter. It happened quickly after that.. talks about our life. This new family to replace the one
that hated him. On my birthday he took me to get marriage lisence and 4 days later we were married. Small private
ceremony.
One day while I was at work.. my daughter came home from school alittle late and had a boy with her. Normally that
would not bother me or my mother but my husband was very angry. Sent him home.. punish my daughter in crazy way.. grabage
and no computer for a month. The marriage was having issues.. him wanting to come to bed at different times then me. Like
he wanted to avoid sex. Although he did ask me to stop the pill so we could try for a baby a month before the wedding.
I got alittle heated about a dinner he was going to have with his mom and the fact he wouldnt bring me. i thought i should
at least meet my mother in law. Nope still went alone. On the way home he tryied to kiss up to me..by bringing home food
Thinking that would be I wanted.. instead. He figured i would rather make a baby... That is when my beautiful madison was
made.uck
At work things were weird.. people had met my husband. Well on day when I was 5 months pregnant..my boss took me out into
the parking lot. He asked how things at home was. I said fine. Then he told me that Haley was stopped anyone who will
listen and is telling them that he is having an affair with my husband. It took me a moment to process this.. Im married
5 months pregnant and my husband is having an affair with a 16 year old Transgender Male called Haley that I'm stuck working
with. I did't think thing could get worse. But They Can.
I him and of course he denyed it..but had no problem with being thrown out oInto the couch to sleep. Right there
I knew we were done. I just needed him out. The next couple week hurt like hell.. he walked around our house and barely
aknowledged me except after he had his backpack pack and said he would be back in a couple of days.. but he would his lean
over and kiss me m
The second girl came while he was away. I decided to have a sitdown with Haley and ask for proof and and my daughter
after walkig me to work just got home to another on in our driveway asking if he was home. she paniced got my mom
who yelled out the window that he out all weekend camping. that his pregnant wife works right the street and who the
hell was she. she turned ghost white.. didnt know about.. another victum..of my husbands. the guilty one is my coworker
no excuses there.
He last 5 months in my house. as I collected his things I went through his laptop. his emails. 6 days before he married me
he told another girl she was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen. Im sure he never stoped he cared to much about what
he looked like.. it was if he was still shopping.
I just consider myself lucky it ended peacefully. It loved to collect knives of all kinds. He was also using our den for
and area to hang and work on his research hes been doing. On Jack the Ripper.
There is much more..
I know I need help.. I talk to friends and family but they just don't understand compeletly. Their looks of pity
hurts or blame like I should have seen what he was. It wasnt just me he fooled.. it was the ones who's opinions
mattered to me most.
When it was online and dating his attention was there. Texting all the time.. pictures.. dediecating songs. He told me
his life so openly. Troubled childhood.. mean military father.. who disowned him so his mom cant talk to him. I heard
all about his two little girls. The oldest he actually had custody of.. he showed me the child support card in his
name, but she got herself together and has her back. The youngest they just didnt work out. Then his time in the service
he got injured and discharged. He had a chunks of his thigh missing to go along with his story.. he was good.
After about a month he moved in after his living arrangment fell apart. I lived with my mother who permenantly disabled
and my 14 year old daughter. It happened quickly after that.. talks about our life. This new family to replace the one
that hated him. On my birthday he took me to get marriage lisence and 4 days later we were married. Small private
ceremony.
One day while I was at work.. my daughter came home from school alittle late and had a boy with her. Normally that
would not bother me or my mother but my husband was very angry. Sent him home.. punish my daughter in crazy way.. grabage
and no computer for a month. The marriage was having issues.. him wanting to come to bed at different times then me. Like
he wanted to avoid sex. Although he did ask me to stop the pill so we could try for a baby a month before the wedding.
I got alittle heated about a dinner he was going to have with his mom and the fact he wouldnt bring me. i thought i should
at least meet my mother in law. Nope still went alone. On the way home he tryied to kiss up to me..by bringing home food
Thinking that would be I wanted.. instead. He figured i would rather make a baby... That is when my beautiful madison was
made.uck
At work things were weird.. people had met my husband. Well on day when I was 5 months pregnant..my boss took me out into
the parking lot. He asked how things at home was. I said fine. Then he told me that Haley was stopped anyone who will
listen and is telling them that he is having an affair with my husband. It took me a moment to process this.. Im married
5 months pregnant and my husband is having an affair with a 16 year old Transgender Male called Haley that I'm stuck working
with. I did't think thing could get worse. But They Can.
I him and of course he denyed it..but had no problem with being thrown out oInto the couch to sleep. Right there
I knew we were done. I just needed him out. The next couple week hurt like hell.. he walked around our house and barely
aknowledged me except after he had his backpack pack and said he would be back in a couple of days.. but he would his lean
over and kiss me m
The second girl came while he was away. I decided to have a sitdown with Haley and ask for proof and and my daughter
after walkig me to work just got home to another on in our driveway asking if he was home. she paniced got my mom
who yelled out the window that he out all weekend camping. that his pregnant wife works right the street and who the
hell was she. she turned ghost white.. didnt know about.. another victum..of my husbands. the guilty one is my coworker
no excuses there.
He last 5 months in my house. as I collected his things I went through his laptop. his emails. 6 days before he married me
he told another girl she was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen. Im sure he never stoped he cared to much about what
he looked like.. it was if he was still shopping.
I just consider myself lucky it ended peacefully. It loved to collect knives of all kinds. He was also using our den for
and area to hang and work on his research hes been doing. On Jack the Ripper.
There is much more..
Good luck to you and your child.
{{hugz}}
He pays child support but in a private arrangement. He doesn't think of me as his wife.. or her as his daughter. Its almost like he he pays me to keep me quiet so his new life doesn't get blown up. Like in his head its blackmail instead of his responsibility. I fear for both of us.. that when he gets tired of paying or feels threaten. I might meet his idea of The Ripper.
I can only write that i wouldn't play along with the "private arrangement" deal. I don't know if you've had paternity legally declared, but that's the first step, then court ordered child support .
Be sure to let the courts know what kind of person you/they are dealing with.
You and your daughter are safer if all is "out in the public record". HE isn't, but that isn't your concern, and you don't want to enable this monster any longer in helping him cover his tracks. Like existing children.
I had a son with a P, and, despite aware nurturing and counselors and all the love and aid i could give him, he is now estranged from me, withholds my Grands from me, and the P is "G'pa" and not alone on holidays. (heavy sigh)
I do believe there are genetics that can't be stopped, unless the person wants desperately to change their own "wiring", but since they get what they want, there is no desire to change.
Glad you don't have to worry about your health in this at least! You have to be there for you and others.
I really wish you well, and hope your lil' one can be helped through/past this mindset. There is so much more known now than when we went through this, i have to think there's more "hope".
Glad HE'S not around your lil' one! VERY warped sense o' "fun" in that one! SHEESH!