I dont smoke and never have. If you are a victim of a sociopath then this is very normal you will have on and off days....you might go days, weeks or even months feeling like you made the best decsion of your life leaving them and happy you found them out, then you might do the same missing them and second guessing yourself...I think its because we all were so in love with an ideal man and then everything comes to light and you realize you were just a player they picked to participate in their games. They didnt love you and most likely were screwing you on many diff levels behind your back.


You are going through withdraws of a sociopath not nicotine.

I used to be a smoker 15+ years ago and it's not the nicotine.

It's anxiety from your relationship. Google traumatic/ psychopathic bonding. Killing your addiction to a sociopath is the same as killing your addiction to a drug. It really does get a lot better the more time goes on.

HUGS!!!

It's all of that but mostly I think I'm enraged at being taken advantage of. I HATE him so much! It feels like he is never getting out of my head.

Betrayed912: When I think of my S/N, I am now repulsed that I lowered my standards and did not see ALL of the red flags sooner. I sympathize with you because that feeling of being taken advantage of SUCKs...No, it REALLY SUCKs.

I promise, though, the anger will slowly subside with time. You will one day say to yourself "who the fu&^"did I date/marry?" In time, you will also be glad he is out of your life because that person you thought you knew was a sick, twisted act/illusion and you were his prey. They are masters at seducing, gaming, and ruining (as someone posted in another discussion).

As difficult as it may be, continue to surround yourself with friends/family and go on being your beautiful self. Remember, karma will catch up with him down the road. Hugs.

I have been an on and off smoker for years, but as aagardfamily said, it sounds more like anxiety from your relationship. I have had the same symptoms (and even when I wasn't smoking at the time). I would shake, feel jittery, have heart palpitation, insomnia, anger, etc. Unfortunately it might not go away right away, but there are some techniques that can help you distract from the situation such as talking to people, writing, breathing technique, and if you are at home when panic starts, you can go out walking or driving and focus on anything but the painful feelings. And eventually it will subside, I promise.
But if it persists, I'd also recommend to get checked up by professionals just to be safe.

Hello Betrayed,
I don't smoke, but I did go out with friends a couple of weekends ago and drank, once I caught a buz I was getting triggers to the point where I wasn't having fun and had to have my sister take me home. Probably because whenever I would go out with my friends while in the relationship he would text and call me all night. He made it seem like I couldn't take care of myself and he cared and that was why I had to text and talk to him on the phone every minute I was out. He also made up stupid lies about the place I was at or the people that were at the club. To scare me into going home or something. (before I knew he was a liar)

Was there anything that may have triggered you while you were on the nicotine buzz?

You know what, I was going to bed when I had my anxiety. At that time old memories were coming back to me. Even events I had long forgotten, I was recalling them. This included his lying about this one girl who made a pass at him and gave him her number, but he said he ignored her. How he texted me each time to ask me where I was or what I was doing - and he was only doing that so he wouldn't show up anywhere with another girl at the same place I was. Oh and best of all - he would only start fights with me by text and not in person. He would text something like how I wasn't being a good girlfriend. I answered on how much I loved him. When he didn't respond, I would call and call. He didn't answer me back until a day later and he told me how he loved me too. It dawned on me that he uses these text fights to make it seem right for him to cheat on me.
All these old memories and putting more pieces together must have really ticked me. I felt like I was getting inside his mind.

Yes, I'm a smoker. You could be feeling a little bit of nicotine withdrawl but if you drank also, it could make you feel worse the next day due to the fact the alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and you are depressed. I'm with you. I feel all of your pain. It's been two months since I broke it off and I'm still raw and in agony

My Dr had to put me on a second antidepressant because of what I'm going through. This is situational, not chemical. I didn't eat hardly anything at all for over a month and said, I want you to be taking more valium so you will eat or your medicine won't work. I have been incapacitated emotionally and physically due to surgery. People around me that I know cant understand why I cant stop thinking about him and what has happened but they have no idea what this is like

this actually is a chemical reaction, you can become very addicted to these kind of people there for going into chemical withdrawls when things go bad. its not a fun feeling at all/