Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
Hi, I have 2 children aged 6 (girl) and 8 (boy) with an ex husband who has been diagnosed by a clinical psychologist (mid 2010) as having the behaviours of a psychopath. I separated in jan 2010. To then find out that I was set up and was targeted by this man and his freinds because I had real money and they had paper money.
Regardless of the set up. And now calling a 4 year investigation quits because of the laws in New Zealand and how everyone has supported his behaviour. The fact is we had children together the 2 above during that marriage. And the fact I had to hand over 50% of shared care post relationship due to statements of that if I didn't hand over un supervised access, I could loose care of our children all together.
The fact is 4 years on the damage to both children.
My 6 year old girl suffers from anxiety, tearful alot, does not want to go to her fathers, has returned with unknown bruises, confusion, finds it hard to make friends, all sorts of stuff.
My 8 year old boy suffers from profuse sweating during sleep (if anyone knows what causes profuse sweating during the night - could you please respond to this message) , anger, rage, narcisistic behaviour at his sister, still in pull ups during the night, damage to property, school issues, returned from his fathers with bloody noses from other older children punching him, unknown bruises, finds it hard to make friends, grooming tactics are being used on 8yr old not to tell me any information.
I don't know what to do anymore apart from involve a small organisation who are getting some counselling for them and seeing if the 2 children will talk. And give them tools to protect themselves.
Fact in Nz one cannot protect children from psychological mind games or a psychopath. Personally I had pinned him for a psychopathic fraudster.
I want to leave Nz because the laws aren't here and child abuse is really high.
Because of what I have seen and uncovered. Even how Women have no rights in Nz we have nothing really.
Question - if one has all this going on what can I do for these angels, I am concerned about my boy more than the other one due to 8yr old has narcisistic behaviours at times. I am scared he will end up having the same traits and destroying his life and others as he develops and grows. 6 yr old knows something is wrong with her father already? What else can I do to protect them?
Regardless of the set up. And now calling a 4 year investigation quits because of the laws in New Zealand and how everyone has supported his behaviour. The fact is we had children together the 2 above during that marriage. And the fact I had to hand over 50% of shared care post relationship due to statements of that if I didn't hand over un supervised access, I could loose care of our children all together.
The fact is 4 years on the damage to both children.
My 6 year old girl suffers from anxiety, tearful alot, does not want to go to her fathers, has returned with unknown bruises, confusion, finds it hard to make friends, all sorts of stuff.
My 8 year old boy suffers from profuse sweating during sleep (if anyone knows what causes profuse sweating during the night - could you please respond to this message) , anger, rage, narcisistic behaviour at his sister, still in pull ups during the night, damage to property, school issues, returned from his fathers with bloody noses from other older children punching him, unknown bruises, finds it hard to make friends, grooming tactics are being used on 8yr old not to tell me any information.
I don't know what to do anymore apart from involve a small organisation who are getting some counselling for them and seeing if the 2 children will talk. And give them tools to protect themselves.
Fact in Nz one cannot protect children from psychological mind games or a psychopath. Personally I had pinned him for a psychopathic fraudster.
I want to leave Nz because the laws aren't here and child abuse is really high.
Because of what I have seen and uncovered. Even how Women have no rights in Nz we have nothing really.
Question - if one has all this going on what can I do for these angels, I am concerned about my boy more than the other one due to 8yr old has narcisistic behaviours at times. I am scared he will end up having the same traits and destroying his life and others as he develops and grows. 6 yr old knows something is wrong with her father already? What else can I do to protect them?
I have a borderline son who's now 33 years old..... far beyond the age of intervention. Unfortunately, there was no enlightened recognition of the patterns of sociopathy or narcissism in children while he was developing. The foremost authority on the subject is Dr. Liane Leedom, and I encourage you to purchase her book and contact her. Her book is "Just Like His Father."
I know that parental affection and warmth is considered the means to create affective empathy in developing children. Without affective empathy no conscience can develop.
Wishing you success in battling the forces that diminish the nurture that your children need.
Joyce M. Short
Author- Carnal Abuse by Deceit
And yes, your advice to sanity about Dr. Liane Leedom's work is on spot.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!
Antares11
I have looked up both these books and I will be purchasing them soon. Thanks for the recommendation.
The worst part of all this is I told a clinical psychologist about the sexual deviance issues that I was concerned about during the relationship and herd about post relationship.
Pornography sites, brothels, exposed my daughter to pornography at 14yrs (at the time I was not sure if this was an accidental and challenged what had happened, he stated it was an accident ?), no interest in sex or it was on his terms, thought he was bi sexual (claims?)
Post relationship found out he was into swinging, payed 2 men to give him oral sex in a park, was unfaithful multiple times - I never knew that until post,
He has multiple cell phones and 1 phone was being used to recieve texts from women notifying him how many individuals they had sex with from one side of the country to the other.
I stated to clinical psychologist is he accelerating out of control? I was told I and the other woman were just biased ex's. Fact I was concerned about the unsupervised access. It broke me thinking and knowing still to this day that he has unsupervised access and the Nz law system around children is incredibley poor. Fact they don't even have guidelines as what constitutes for neglect.
Every night I cry for them, worrying if they are Ok. What are they seeing. My son just recently state "I know someone who has been inappropriately touch by an Adult." ............................I feel sick. I have got an agency that is going to try to councel them because he just won't talk more. My son clams up. I wonder what goes on in his head all the time. (because of the behaviours he has) New Zealand has alot to answer for. I have a freind who walked into court with evidence photographs of abuse, police reports of domestic all kinds of evidence the court still gave shared care to her exhusband of her angels! Fact............ It happens all the time here! It is so appalling.