My dad verbally abused me for the 30 years we spent on the planet together, grades not good enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, never wanted me in the first place, etc.  I had about 20 years without the abuse, after he died.  My husband has treated me nicely.   Now our adult daughter is old enough to have an opinion on everything and just about everything I do is not good enough.   I never learned how to cope while my dad was alive, now it seems I will have the verbal abuse for the rest of my life.  I need to know how to cope.  For example, if I say something that is unacceptable, Jeanie will complain to her dad by text and phone call, and she will give me the silent treatment.   It hurts.  I wish I didn't care but after all I have done for her, besides the respect I feel should come with motherhood.  it just hurts so deeply.   I simply do not know what to do and know I cannot bear to live like this for the rest of my life.  I am not that bad.  Good body type, I don't smoke, drink occasionally but never drunk, clean house, good cook, hard worker, good financial sense.  I fail to see why she cannot treat me nicer.  Any suggestions?