my spouse has become verbally abusive over the past several years and is in total denial about it. Any time my partner gets mad I'm verbally and emotionally degraded, told to shut the fuck up, and called names. Obviously this has caused severe lack of respect for my partner and I have no desire to be affectionate or open.... the kicker: I'm the problem because I'm not being a good supportive and loving spouse. I've called my partner out on it many times and have explained that talking to me like I'm a dog affects the rest of our relationship but there's always an excuse. I've asked to go to marital counseling but was told I need counseling because I'm the problem. Any suggestions on making it work because because I don't think anything but leaving will...