Point blank this is the underlying factor that makes my husband and I's relationship so difficult. We are almost cut from the same cloth emotionally, with how we deal with things and how angry we can get very quickly -the difference is It IS A PRIORITY FOR ME TO CHANGE THIS ABOUT MYSELF.  About 5 years ago some things happened in my personal life and family that made me realize this change was necessary -I saw that the way I deal with things was not working for the people around me and even casued alot of freindships to suffer.  Excited about finally realizing that my anger was just too much and needed to change, I met my husband. He is alot younger than I am and lets just say he is not at this realization yet. This is one of our biggest downfalls yet and what makes it even worse, he knows I am trying to better myself but just wont commit to doing his part for himself. I told him I understand he cannot do the same things I do becsaeu we are different people, yet I need him to try and that certain things are dealbreakers. Even though he agreed and was there to promise me the moon, his behavior (anger) has not changed since I met him. I just feel like fights we get into are mostly stemming from him blowing up at me, not being patient or udnerstanding if I have an issue and just being a jerk when he shouldn't. Life is hard enough, I dont need someone complicating every situation we go through becasue he feels like acting like a jerk. I'm just at a loss.