I'm hoping there is someone out there who is available to chat. I'm in a relationship with a guy who is very verbally abusive. He has honestly improved some but not much. It's been almost 4 years. I'm tired of his anger. Tonight he exploded again because I told him something he said offended me. He blew up. I'm currently injured and I'm relearning to walk. He uses this to his advantage. He puts me down. He's stopped in the middle of helping me and yelled fall, which I nearly did. He calls me names screams at me. I've so far been the bigger person. I don't say any mean things back. But currently I don't feel safe. I can't get around on my own and he will leave me stuck at times to be mean. I called the police on him once because he threatened to kill me. They came and he calmed down. But now he will attempt to take my phone so I can't call for help if I need it. He has so much anger he will yell and say things that to me normal people wouldn't say. He yells out he will slit my throat, gut me like a fish. He wishes me dead. It's horrible. I feel so vulnerable because I can't get around without help. I want to tell the home visiting nurse I need full time care till I gain my strength back. But he's right here when she is here. I'm a prisoner in my own home. I don't know what to do. I'm not safe.
Are there any private moments you spend with the home visiting nurse? Does she ever help you in the bathroom or anything? Maybe you could slip her a note. I work as an in home caregiver and most of us are trained to recognize people in abusive situations and help them out.
I am very sorry to hear you are in such a rough spot. Abusers have such a horrible tendency to hurt vulnerable people and kick them while they are down.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about anything. I hope you are safe <3
I just got out of a vebal abuses relationship..most of the time it was very good . But he did not trust me and was always watch me trying to catch me out argueing well it was argueing he shout i stay quiet was easier etc.. Now i made the break he going round to my friend making me out to be bad one ..lucky they do not believe it thank good ..the thing is i am grieving for the relationship i had when it was good and letting go .but i still love him and that make me so wrong ..but my family do not understand that and get mad at me ..so i feel i can not fo to anyone to explain how i am feeling ..plz is this normal how i am feeling
Wow - I'm so sorry. I am sure that whatever you're going through is difficult enough on you, you do not deserve to have someone around that treats you that way. I am going through a very similar situation and will always be available to talk. Stay strong, and dont ever stoop to his level, although i know its hard <3
I understand. I deal with something very different but has similar threads. I’m dating someone 25 years older who is constantly telling me I’m doing something wrong. My father called and he was diagnosed with dementia. I was upset. He told me I was adding drama and my parents were fucking freaks who just like me freaked out at everything. He gotten mad and called me a stupid bitch and a fucking cunt. I’m an idiot for believing in religion. My father was emotional verbally sexually and mentally abusive and today I realized I was with what I struggled so hard to get away from. I feel utterly helpless. I don’t know what to do or feel.
I am very sorry to hear you are in such a rough spot. Abusers have such a horrible tendency to hurt vulnerable people and kick them while they are down.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about anything. I hope you are safe <3