I have just joined this group today.  My husband and I will be married 2 years in August.  His abuse started 3 months after we got married.  The last 2 weeks have been a pure living nightmare.  My mother (who will be 92 in November) lives with us and she is a narcissist.  My husband not only verbally, mentally and emotionally abuses me but my mother also.  Last night the cops got involved.  My question - do they always play the "victim" and  do people always believe them instead of the actual victim?  I was denied a retraining order because they said I was not in any danger.  I told the officers if I would have the bruises showing, you would believe me.  The abuse continued this morning as I was still begging him no to leave - WHY DO I DO THAT?  Now that he has been gone all day, I feel better, but am convinced that I am a horrible person who no body likes - including my kids.  Feeling really confused, sad and scared right not.