I just joined, and not sure exactly why other than to talk to anyone.  I have been married just under 30 years.  My wife says she loves me, but shows differently.  There is no affection, intimacy, or physical touch of any kind from her.  I try to flirt, kiss her face, kneck and she just laughs.  I try to be silly and ask her to be my girlfriend.  She just laughs.  Never a response of any kind.  When I try to touch her, she pulls away or says stop that tickles...what?  You weren't ticklist in the past..  I love my wife so very much.  I wish to be intimate with her but nothing seems to work.  She only says it is hormones or lack of.  Over the last few years about 3 times she has said she would go to the Doctor and see what can be done.  She has never gone.  Just recently I tried flirting and being goofy and told her I wanted to be frisky.  She said "I am 60 years old".  I said "I am too, but I am not dead".  I told her "I adore my wife", she said "I adore my husband".  "Then why don't you show it", she could only say "I don't know".

I just don't get it. She will not openly talk about why she feels this way, she only says I don't know.  I am now getting very depressed and are very lonely.  I work from home and she has been a stay at home mom since 2000.  Kids are all gone, so she justs sits and watches TV all day, every day.  I just wish for cuddling at night, hugs and kisses with the woman I love but it does not look like that will happen any longer.  Don't want to leave, but just can't take this any more.