Unhappy Marriage Community Group
A place for those caught in an unhappy marriage who don't know what to do or where to turn. A place to come to talk and share the hurt and pain involved with an unhappy marriage
I have been dating someone for 13 years married 1 year. Everything seemed fine until I got married, he got fired from his good paying job and and found another job that has him at home more so now I'm stuck with him most of the day... we fight nonstop.... we have a almost 10 year old that sees everything that is happening...
When it comes to him giving me money to support our family which means putting food in our daughter's tummy, he bitches about it bcz he needs smokes and coffee kpods... which do the math .. he gave me 80$ for groceries so 30$ went to smokes and 20$ went to coffee which leaves me with 30$ for the week...
Our sex life isn't there anymore, sex maybe once every 2 months..
I'm scared to get divorced I don't want my daughter to have a life without like I did but I don't know if I can do it anymore I feel like someone is ripping my heart out everyday.....
To choose me, would have meant, to admit the relationship is not working, and it was going to end at some point. I knew that 1 year into the relationship, but it took me 5 years to leave.
The biggest turning point, was when I had enough, and I became more focused on better opportunities for myself outside of the relationship. I cried it out, and then made a choice to put myself and my happiness first.
In your situation, you have your child to think of too. Do you want your child to think this is normal, and therefore will repeat this behaviour when in a adult relationship in years to come? When we are children, life is normal, until we know its not. So it is upto you to make the choice to change or stay, but just remember your child thinks this is 'normal' until she knows it's not.
I can help you if you need, and am happy to chat.