Understanding Betrayal Community Group
Traumatic events, such as natural disasters and criminal attacks shatter assumptions about our sense of safety in the world. In a similiar way, the discovery of infidelity is devastating because it shatters basic assumptions about the security we expect in committed relationships. This group is open to anyone. It's a place to share, learn, and talk freely. Let's...
Its been 2 years going on 3 since dday. I have yet to really get answers. He don't want to talk about it just wants to sweep it under the rug. Well I don't want to anymore I want answers. When I do want to bring it up I get scared and chicken out. I guess cause he gets really mad and defensive. I hate that I get scared I didn't have the affairs and make him feel what I'm feeling. He just doesn't understand why I'm feeling this way. I feel like I'm losing my mind. I don't sleep, eat, and I'm walking around like a robot. I'm so tired of the lies. I think after almost 3 years I deserve the truth.
If you love him and he loves you that is what counts? The choice is yours. Either you stay and make it work or you leave. After 3 years do you feel he still has his bad habits ---- if there is no trust there is nothing. You are stressing and wasting value able time. Time to be happy and think and feel if I am not good to myself how can I make this work... Both parties have to want the relationship. Try letting him know your concerns and fears ...after something like creating or betrayal....there is always doubt , don't let your mind roam free with what if , how come, when. Those questions really don't matter...the past is the past and if you want this. Both have to want is.. How you put it sweeping it under carpet...what ever hurt you....if you excepted it and stay 3 years......than the past is the past put trash out and start living - enjoy lift and be HAPPY. Everything is life is a choice ......make a choice You can continue worrying over the past or live for now and make beautiful memories for yourself.