You can't give up hope. After yrs of dealing with infertility I was blessed with a baby girl who is now 5. We decided we wanted more. I spent 3 yrs on fertilty treatment and no support from family. With the lose of my 2nd Im happy to say I will be blessed again in a few weeks. Another girl. My family told me to be happy I had the one but that wasn't enough for me. I never gave up hope, I prayed for support to get through it no matter what the outcome. It's hard and no one understands what your really going through. Hang in there! Reach for your dreams and never give up hope.

Birdie thanks for sharing your exciting news. Your 5 year old must be getting excited to be a big sister.

Sld, to try and cope with the fear - I just pray - I feel like a higher power has a plan for me and I have to learn to accept what will happen .....of course, I believe in the power of positive thinking and hope too....but at the same time there is a little fear and that's normal. I know exactly what you mean about 'the innocence of having a baby is gone'

Good luck and hugs

I'm so glad you posted this question, because I am really struggling with this right now too. Though I have only had one quick pregnancy, I have not really wanted to TTC lately because I am so afraid of MC again. I'm trying to meditate and reduce the stress in my life, which has always been a problem for me. I'm hoping that through stress-reduction techniques that I'll be able to feel better. I hope that you do too! Best of luck and baby dust!

Wow, I feel the same way. In fact I have 2 boys and have had 2 consecutive miscarriages at 15 weeks and 16 weeks without reason. We are actively trying again. I'm terrified to lose another baby, but I'm just as afraid of not having another baby. It's just awful having your innocence stolen like we have. The last time I was pregnant I spent 16 weeks rubbing my belly and begging the baby not to die. I feel like the lost of these two babies have overidden the happiness I felt when I was pregnant with either of my boys. It feels like have never carried a full term baby.
I hope that you find happiness whichever path you decide.

Well, I am currently 16 weeks pregnant and still freak out over every little cramp, pain, lack of symtom, you name it! I too find myself telling my baby on a daily basis, "Grow, Baby, Grow!" Good luck to all of you! :)

hey girls/ladies i hope your all ok and wishing you all the best of luck for the future ,
i am nearly 20 and have had 3 m/c i am trying again but im so scared incase the same happens to this one when i fall preggers again , can anyone help ? xxx
thanks in advance x

After 8 mc, 3 of which were eptopic, 2 needing surgery keeping up hope seems futile.

My last pregnancy failed, according to the lovely doctor I was seeing, because I was too stressed. I'm determined next time to relax - easy to say.

2 friends of mine admitted they were incapable of relaxing enough to manage, they now have beautiful (adopted) children. 2 cousins with similar history to me have managed with medical intervention.


I'm in my late 30s now and have spent 15 years trying. To be honest, i wanted to quit a long time ago, I really don't care how I have children but the adoption system is so confusing. My husband and I are considered mixed race which puts us at the bottom of long lists, by the time I'd hope to come to the top, we would probably be considered to old. Going private would mean striping both families finanacily - neither are happy to help out.

One of my cousins had an implant from a Donner, just because it was cheaper and less complicated than adoption (she now has a beautiful daughter).

I'm really jealous of my best friend, after a few mc, she tried ivf. 7 months in, she delivered twins. One still born, the other died 10 days later. Next, she needed a double mastectomy- how bad can life get? But she didn't get down, she made it very clear she needed to be a mother but was incapable of losing another child. The adoption agancy made it clear she would be low on their list. So she bought a kid. The cost was horiffic, but the baby is wonderful.

Another cousin of mine gave birth to a perfect boy - no reason why he was still born. She knew she couldn't go through it again. Their (adopted) son is fantastic! Oddly, that is a cousin by marriage, the fathers twin had horiffic endiomorosis. She never managed to conceive and needed a hystorectomy in her early 30s. Her adopted daughters are wonderful.

Having seen how happy others are with adoption, I'd love to do that rather than go through another miscarriage.

My husband doesn't see it that way, he thinks I should try again. Its not him feels the life inside him die.

Its not that I'm scared , I just don't want to go through it again. But I do want to be a mother.


I'm aiming to try one more shot. Lots of hope,