Trying to Conceive Over 35 Community Group

A group for women 35 and older who are TTC, to share hope, positivity, and personal experiences.

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makingbabypast 05/27/2018

Hi! I’m new and lost! Almost 36. Trying to finally have a baby, but obviously there’s a reason I’m posting in this support group that seems empty. So I shall use this just to get my millions of thoughts out, spelling and grammar errors and all.

Try To stay positive and strong. To Know good things come to those who wait. Waited for me to find the right man, that treats me right, takes care of me emotionally and physically. Waited for myself to grow up and be stable emotionally and financially. Waited for the right time. Which I thought was now. But for some reason now that I’m ready to have a baby, my body says otherwise. However, my dr says I’m fine. That my hormone levels are great. That my uterus and tubes and ovaries and whatever else they Check out in there, all looks great. But for some reason we’re just not getting lucky. Apps are just making me frustrated. Peeing on stick after stick after stick to see if I’m ovulating just to pee on more sticks to see that it’s negative and not pregnant this month. All I know is time can only tell. I’m not a religious person but I do know that if it’s meant to happen, I guess it’ll happen one way or another.

I know I’m not in this alone. I know I’m not the only one out there struggling to handle day to day life and the frustrations along with trying to procreate! So, Whomever you are, Wherever you are, others are in this with you and we’re here for each other. Best of luck! And, I just joined this group and have absolutely no idea if anyone is going to see this or if I’m simply writing just write? Into oblivion I go!

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mrstully2u 10/12/2018

I’m not sure if anyone still uses this thread but I thought I would reach out. Sometimes I feel like I am the only person in the world that is trying to conceive over 35. We’ve been trying for a couple of years now and every month that goes by seems a little harder. I hope to find others out there that are going through the same thing.

JLBlair27 01/24/2019

Hi! Just joined because I need to talk to others who are struggling too. Your above story is just like mine. I knew I've always wanted to be a Mom. And after trying to be very patient waiting for a good guy, I thought I was destined to be alone. So I did about a year of research and finally decided to have an IUI. Ended up having 7 over the course of 2 years, until I met my (now) husband. Six months before I met him, I was seeing a fertility doctor. I had tests, took fertility meds & shots, but nothing worked. I was told everything was normal. My husband and I got married the end of May, got pregnant in June and miscarried in July. It's January of the following year (6 months since we lost our 1st) and we haven't had any luck. I'm turning 35 in a few days. And none of our doctors seem to understand my concerns. And my OB actually said to me "Well go get pregnant. Because the older you get the harder it will be to conceive and the more likely you'll be to miscarry" - all after I fought back tears because I was struggling to get pregnant and decided to see her about my options. Sooo ... there's an example. And I feel like I grieve every month that I get a negative test or my period. And I dread taking tests. Stress doing the ovulation kits. And then there are my friends - none of whom have struggled with getting pregnant, who are on baby #2 or #3. Every announcement is like a blow to my heart. I know I may not have had infertility issues or struggled as long as others have, but it doesn't make my inablity to get pregnant any less emotionally and mentally difficult. So I am here to share and listen. And support. Much love

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