Transgenders and Their Significant Others Community Group
This is a group for Transgender Individuals and their Significant Others (Wife, Husband, Fiance/e, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, etc). This includes gay/lesbian and straight relationships and weather one or both are TG. It is to help know what each is going through along be with others going through similar situations. Please no haters. I understand some may have a hard time...
Hi everyone I am new to this. I have been with my wife for 2.5 years, she decided to start transitioning a few weeks after our marriage in March. I don't know what to do, she doesn't want to have sex suddenly, she's so mean, she is numb to me ND the kids. I am always crying and miserable because she won't talk to me or help me with anything anymore ( clean house, laundry, bills, nothing) any advice. Tired of this sadness in my life. She started getting jealous of everything and anyone. I changed my number so my kid's dad couldn't call anymore. None of my friends can call. I'm stuck because I want to be here to support her, but I'm getting hurt. I didn't have this problem until the T shot. She is normally caring, loveable, respectful, considerate, and so much more. Now she is opposite of it all and she is mean. What can I do when she is in denial.
My partner is going to start physically transitioning, but I know a bit about this because I have close friends who have transitioned.
The mood swings and anger are totally normal, and they suck, AND they go away!! It won't be forever. Think of what's happening as your partner suddenly being a teenage boy. Teenage boys kind of suck at emotions, and are getting used to their bodies, and feel self-conscious and angry. I think by joining a group like this you are on the right track. You NEED to be talking to friends, or at least one friend who can support you emotionally, because your partner may not be able to for a little while while they are getting used to their hormone changes and going through "puberty." That said, if you feel able, you should gently remind them that you are half of this relationship, and you need their support as much as they need yours.
It will be OK, just keep talking to friends and to your partner, and make sure to take care of yourself! And I'm sure I'll be posting similar posts soon enough, so let's support each other on this site!