This is where you realize that you have to move on with your life. If someone doesn't accept you for who you are, then they are not the right person for you. Always consider that a red flag when someone considers you invisible, while they state that they wish they had someone in their lives. Its clear that they are looking for the BBD, bigger better deal. Those people aren't worth your time or love, because one day they will make a mistake, and only at the end, when the crap hits the fan, will they understand what they threw away.

And also try to understand that sex really isn't everything. I am not ashamed to admit that I have never had sex with somebody in my entire life! I don't let hormones run my life, I listen to my heart. I may not be looking for someone right now, but I do know the kind of person I want to be with. So listen to your heart hun, find the one you know in your heart you need to be with. But I think we both know that the requirement isn't sex, its far beyond that, it must be your soulmate.

And if a guy or girl will only want to be with you because they seek you out for sex, I am sorry, but they are simply not the right one for you. You wanna be with somebody who will love you more then life itself. True, I don't know what that feels like as I have never had it, but I know thats what I need, that and somebody who enjoys the things I enjoy, or at least understands me, and doesn't judge me. This is the only advice I have to give, I hope that it helps hun.

I thought I had a connection with them as well but yeah you are right it wasn't a big enough connection.. I will take things slower next time I run into someone.

You deserve so much more Anne! You deserve happiness and love! You don't deserve having someone rip you apart, or bring you down. Infact, your situation reminds me of high school. When I was in school, I quite insecure with myself, afterall, I barely had started out life back then, so its not like I had a bunch of life experience under my belt. And since my mom and dad were still alive, they handled all of lifes problems, or at least at the best of their ability.

One of the things I went through in school were the bullies. I would have people make fun of the way I looked, the way I talked, and the way I walked. It made me feel so awful inside because I was seeking acceptance and love, but these people were not capable of treating me like another human being. In order for them to feel good about themselves, they had to degrade me as if I was something less then human, like a dog in need, who just needed to be kicked away.

And then as my parents began getting sick, somehow they found out, probably cause word travels fast in a small town. They started making fun of my dying parents, thats when I started becoming an angry person. And then after graduation, and after they died, I got worse, and lost site of everything for 10 years after that. But there is something I've learned since I was saved by an angel and returned back to my roots of being a good person. I learned not to care what other's think of me.

Why should we care Anne? Do they know us? No! We make the mistake of seeking acceptance, understanding and love from other people. But only we know who we truly are. And how can we expect other's to love us if we do not love ourselves. The answer hun are within you, all you have to do is look inside. Sure, you might cry when you deal with the truth, but those tears of diamonds are coming from understanding who you are.

And after the tears are gone, you realize that you don't need any of them to make you feel good about yourself. And thats because you already feel great, because you know who you are, and you know what you want in life. So you take control of your own life, and you start making positive choices, instead of negative ones that only serve to hurt you. Anne, you are a good person, you are amazing infact, and you know it, so don't you go on denying it you. :)

Your going to be ok I promise, this was just but another chapter in your life in which to experience. But this time, your moving forward with new knowledge, so that when you turn the page to begin the next chapter, your life is a little bit easier this time.

Yes you are right I will figure this out it may be a foggy muddy mess but I can make my way out of here out of this situation. Even if everyone around me hates me I can do it. I need to keep busy and be sensible with what I spend my time on and who I spend it with. And be extremely careful with who I let into my personal life. I have a few that I know I can trust to at least visit every once and a blue moon, I just hope I do what I need. I will keep at it! HUGS Thank you for your encouraging words :) YOU are an amazing person! I hope things are fairing well keep up the good spirits hun!

Just want to say Ashley has great advice, I got married to my ex wife and it was the biggest mistake of my life, she was mean and vindictive. You are luck to figure this out ahead of time, and save yourself a messy divorce. If the person doesn't see you as a person and you even question whether or not to be with them , then you are doing the right thing by waiting for someone who is right for you. I won't recover a lot of the same point Ashley covered, she brought up a lot of good points. But good luck in finding that special someone. Big Hug:-)

Thank you Melinda :) I hope things are going well for you! Big Hug!!

I don't know what happened to Melinda, I hope she is ok. Its like, one minute she was here, next minute she was gone. :( How you holding up Anne? I think about you often, hope you are doing well. Huggles and Cuddles :)