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Goals

CrazyCanuk
CrazyCanuk
I have really been struggling with making goals, and I am struggling a bit with why. I think I have narrowed the field to being afraid of failure. I have had so many goals over the past few years destroyed by others, unfortunate circumstances and me, myself and I. My self-esteem and confidence are shot and I am not looking to bruise my ego anymore by failing more and more. It is safe to not have any goals and that is a problem. I know goals are important, they actually build confidence and self-esteem, but I cannot seem to get myself to put goals down on paper.

Being this is the new year, I thought I would try and figure out a few simple goals, but my mind just goes blank. Ugh!

Any suggestions? How have you tackled this problem?
ryverrat
ryverrat
I don't make goal, I just look for very small steps I can take to better myself or others. And I mean small. Like when I stop for coffee and want something to eat, I look at both the apples and the danishes. At least I am considering the healthier option and sometimes the apple wins. When it does I feel better because I know I made a better choice. If the danish wins, I don't beat on myself for it because I at least made an effort to get the apple and this leaves it open for me to get the apple the next time.

A child learns to be confident in their ability to walk by taking small steps and not giving up when they fall. They just practice walking more until they can run.
ryverrat
ryverrat
For increasing your potassium, Jen, why not check with doctor about using No-Salt salt substitute. Contains 650 mg of potassium per 1/4 teaspoon. Use it instead of salt and you'll be lowering your sodium intake also. I take albuterol rescue inhaler for asthma and it drops my potassium like a rock. So when I use it, I switch to No-Salt for the potassium. Putting it on food buffers it for the stomach and cover the terrible taste of anything straight potassium.

Audra
CrazyCanuk
CrazyCanuk
How do you eat an elephant? one bit at a time. How do you set goals when you have PTSD? one step at a time.

Good advice. Start small. I am going to have to think of some small things that I can setup as goals. I need to consider things that I have a chance to be successful with as I really need to get some confidence and self esteem back.

Jen, I am glad you are taking your potassium. That is great goal. Could you mix it into a fruit smoothie or something like that to lessen the taste? I am glad you brought that up because I really should be taking calcium but it tastes bad too. I make a smoothie every morning. I think I will try adding calcium tomorrow. Hey is that a goal? I think I just made a short term goal. Add calcium to my smoothie tomorrow.

S.M.A.R.T goal test
specific - yes
measurable - yes
achievable - yes
result - I did not identify that taking calcium will help keep my bones strong.
Time bound - yes.

It is a goal. A small goal.
ryverrat
ryverrat
Jen,
I understand. I have skipped meds lately because the depression of the job lost is setting in. I asked hubby to remind me every morning so I get back on schedule. Took them today but just now I almost could not remember I had took them. I am not sleeping right again. Trying to not slip back down the rabbit hole.