Family strife and relationship turmoil is always painful due to ongoing tension within one’s family with no resolution in sight. With that said, even though there are no guarantees, there are a few things to think about and to try.
1- Pray about the situation.
- Ask God to soften their hearts so that they are willing to forgive.
- Ask God to show you in what manner you have sinned against the person.
- Apologize for anything you can think of that you should not have done or said.
2- What not to do in order to avoid more turmoil and conflict.
- Do not argue with someones "feelings." They are not facts.
- Do not defend yourself. Explain what happened but don't make excuses.
- Don't dispute the past. Realize that people do experience situations differently.
- Do not try to prove that they are wrong and you are right.
- Do not try to prove that the person is crazy - even if you THINK they are.
- Do not tell the person they are too sensitive or overreacting.
3- What you can do.
- Practice demonstrating faithfulness, humility, love and respect at all times.
- Say good things to your grandchildren about their parent (s).
- Make something special they love and send it them to enjoy if possible.
- Don’t forget birthdays, anniversaries, and other special occasions.
- Be sincere and continue to invite them into a dialogue and into a relationship.
4- For yourself.
- Don't lose heart and give up right away. It may be a slow step-by-step process.
- Keep your own spirit free from bitterness if they don’t respond right away.
- Love without expectations or demands.
- Be vulnerable. Let the person see your remorse over hurting them in the past.
- Be willing to forgive if asked and to begin the reconciling process.