Background: My SIL is having a hysterectomy in about 2 weeks. Her and my brother drive a truck. (longhaul) They make really good money,
are home every weekend,
have no kids at home,
they are both young
And my mother thinks he set the moon and the stars! He can do no wrong!

So she is over here the other night, crying and whining about poor little ___ is so tired, poor little____is worried about money, poor little ____ said it's going to be all going to be laid on him now to make a living....yadda yadda yadda

I usually keep my mouth shut. But she caught me on a bad day.

So I lost it

I said well, poor little ____ will just have to do what everyone else does. He'll have to make a living for his family by himself....big deal....you do what you have to do!!!
If he is tired....he can take off work....he gets a paid vacation!! No reason why he can't!
As for money, well, life is kinda good about throwing you curve balls...he should have been saving some of that money instead of blowing it on a card table, auctions, a stereo/video system for the back seat of the NEW car they just bought. Maybe they should have waited on the brand new deisel truck he just bought.....or maybe he should have waited about the trailer he bought, or all the junk he is buying so he can go to flea markets and have fun selling stuff.
the guns, the furniture....I mean they've really been blowing money! And she wants to wine to me about his money problems.

She's been coming over helping me out lately due to guilt. She'll be staying with my SIL for the 4 weeks after her surgery. When I had my breakdown...was in bed for a year, couldn't come out of my room even. Guess what.....she never once even came to visit me.

Don't get me wrong, I love my brother, but I am sick of my mothers crying about him all the time!
Then she starts in about his step daughter moving back in with them. She's now 18. Well, she will NEVER forgive her for the way she treated poor little ______.
I finally lost it with that old argument too. I said well, I know you think ____can do no wrong, and you feel sorry for him, but I feel sorry for the stepdaughter! Boy did she give me the look!

What happened was, him and his wife (my SIL) didn't want to give up driving their truck. They left a 13 year old girl home alone!!!! And when they started having problems with her they packed her back off to Iowa, where my sil is from ...to her mothers.
To me, they were telling her they didn't want to deal with her and didn't want her. I would bet anything that the girl felt that way! It was wrong of them to do that! PERIOD. What they should have done, the right thing to have done, would have been for her to get her but out of that truck and stay home and raise her daughter!!!!

I'm sick of it! Sick of her favoritism, sick of the excuses and her view of him being able to do no wrong. Sick of him not owning up to his responsibilities. So I told her, he better not whine to me about any of this because I will flat tell him off.

3 hrs. later....she calls me up begging me not to say anything to poor little _____.
It made me so mad. I told her I would say something to him if I wanted to! And he would get over it!

I love my family but I am so sick of this extreme partiality bit. And it's not that I am jealous....cause I'm not. You can't miss what you never had. But all this poor pitiful ______ is getting to me!!!