The Empty Nesters Community Group
Coming home to an empty home after years of the hectic days of raising children, especially if you did it alone.
Deirdre is our only child. We had a baby boy but he died when he was born prematurely due to a car accident. I was an only child and I always said I would have at least two children. I hated feeling guilty for living 1500 miles from my parents. Now our daughter lives 3000 miles from us. I don't want her to feel guilty. What bothers me most is she has Crohn's syndrome and does not take very good care of herself and she smokes. Also, she seems to get only lower paying jobs with poor insurance. She doesn't go to specialists like she should. She says it's too expensive even though we would pay for it. Just recently she totaled her car but fortunately was not hurt. Worrying about her adds to my depression but I try not to let it show. Also her boyfriend and my husband don't hit it off, so when she visits they tend to spend more time with her friends than us. I guess I would not be so upset if she was healthy and had a good paying job.
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I am an only child also so I know how that goes. I have 2 children , the last one got married 10 months ago and I am just now coming to the point where I am realizing that my children are now my adult children so they are responsible for there own lives. I worry about them a lot but when I do my depression gets really bad so I decided it was time for me to stop.How old is your daughter?? Have you sit down and had a serious conversation with her about this?? You could tell her how concerned you are about her but then what she does with it is her responsibility. My experience as an only child is that a lot of stress was put on me because my mother smothered me so I rebelled for quite a few years. She will eventually grow up and come too realize that she needs to get her act together. It would probably make you feel better if you just talk to her even though she still might not act like she cares what you think but she does. Is there a way her boyfriend and your husband could at least try and get a long?? That would help also. Good luck I know when it comes to our children we are always concerned no matter how old they are. xoxo
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